Anyone else giving up on trying to find lasting love like me?

Well, some things take time and patience. A lot of people don't realise they're with the one until they are 4 years into their marriage, and realise they've been with "the one" all along. Seems to me that sort of thing is more about building a good relationship, meaning you have to open yourself up to a certain extend before you can even fall in love to that level, and not something that happens instantly.

 

I haven't given up hope for a lasting love or marriage. I still view it as the ideal if I'm to pursue a relationship with somene. I don't believe that all people are called to that life either. With that said, I also don't hold a fairytale view or romanticized view towards marriage. Like loving yourself, the action of love requires a daily choice on your point. Sure, there are going to be happy moments, but there will also be sad ones, and even times that feel dry. I think with this understanding I'm better able to appreciate love and marriage for what it is while not envy others for having it.

I figure if I'm doing my part then it will happen, and if it doesn't happen then it wasn't meant to be.

 

Yes, I feel the same way, except that I've never desired marriage or children, and now I'm reaffirming that outlook. I think your last sentence is the way I'm going to go too. What made you come to this point?

 

My experience, being married to the love of my life for over 30 years, says that yes, it is possible. It has not been easy. My wife suffers from depression and other health related issues. Our relationship has been chaste for over 4 years. I've come to realize that while sexual relations with me wife were terrific, they were only part of our relationship. The spiritual aspect is more important.

 

I havn't given up but I'm fresh out of ideas. I have always been dead set against legal marriage. The more I learn about the family court system, I'm beginning to see the monogomous relationship with a woke woman, kid and cohabitation still leads to the same state sponsored slavery marriage does. I have no interest( well almost no interest) in casual hookups.

 

You mean finding that special someone who is beautiful, loving, and likes me for me? Yeah, right...Look, there goes a unicorn riding UFO!

 

I gave up years ago. I have a "if it happens it happens" kind of attitude. Never been really good at perusing women, it was them who asked me out.

 

That sounds like co dependency

 

I thought like this since before I even knew about MGTOW but I like MGTOW because it put my experiences into perspective and provides alot of factual information on alot of the hate and sexism men face.

Alot of the men in my family are alpha as fuck, good atheletes and they did really well really well career wise and I watched most of them become mangina servants for women. At 5 years old I was already like no thanks. I've seriously been telling people I wasnt getting marries since age 5, lol.

 

Same here

 

The thought of finding someone i have something in common with is nice, but I'm quite sure that won't happen for a while. I just wish that my parents would cut it out with trying to pressure me to date. I just don't have the time or money necessary for it right now.