Stop Calling it an Addiction!

Stop calling it an addiction, this is a huge reframe to help you break through. It's your decision every step of the way.

People call it an addiction so they can keep doing it over and over. An addiction presupposes you have no free will or control over it - the truth is you do. This mindset of irresponsibility makes a person ripe for bondage. People deny that they have control so that they can continue to do what satisfies their lusts.

It's simply an intense desire for something that you chose to develop, then you deceive yourself into giving into it as if you had no choice. Quit lying to yourself.

You can choose to make the desire strong, or to make it weak. If you make it weak then you won't suffer the pain of making the right decisions.

 

That's what you choose to believe - and it's a belief that will not strengthen your decision making regarding the bondage that we are talking about. I choose to believe that it my choice, and that really is a true belief. Everytime you choose to gratify yourself with pornography it IS your choice even if the desire is overwhelming. You choose to make it overwhelming or choose to weaken it.

 

Not in the sense that you have no choice or control.

 

Addiction is a useful word, but I don't use it in the sense that is typically meant - in fact I will quit using it altogether; I let myself resort to it for a time because everyone on here seemed bent on focusing on their addiction. It's all about your belief system and the concept of "addiction" only perpetuates the problem; we choose to do the behavior, we are not automatons of our desire as science would have us think.

 

Calling it an addiction gives PMO more power than it has - do you want to make it harder? Be my guest. It is powerless filth and I'm going to make it easier by taking responsibility and calling it a foolish decision that I have chose to make. I chose to make the desire overwhelming, now I am choosing to trample it in the dust.

 

How do you know PMO is an addiction? How specifically do you define an addiction? Do you define it as something that renders your free-will incapable of operation or the ability to exercise self-control, if so I don't agree with you. All addiction is a very strong desire that a person foolishly builds up. No matter how powerful the desire becomes you still have the capacity say no to it.

 

Actually it's more than that because addiction is a concept that comes from the world of science which has shown itself to be overly materialistic, deterministic and fatalistic. If you have a fatalistic mentality you will get that outcome.

 

And furthermore what I have found is that people let their "addiction" become part of their identity, which only further compounds the issue. They self-identify with it and it becomes part of their core setting up perpetual failure.

 

Then people take "addiction" a step further by calling it a disease, adding yet another layer of fatalism.