I say no, yet I continue

There's lots of things you can do, the best thing to begin with, may be to identify why you relapsed each time it happens.

You had a few drinks that time, alcohol lets your guard down. So you may want to minimise or even quit drinking for a few months.

Next, are there any underlying things that trouble you? Think hard about this, is there anything you're using porn to desensitise or distract yourself away from? Or it may just be out of boredom and habit, now turned addiction? For me it was a fear of failure, and I used porn to avoid applying myself to studies and socialising.

Finally, I highly recommend reading into how porn effects us. I've read it, seen the videos, and sometimes I look up an article on it still - just to remind myself why I'm saying no!

You can find this info here, as well as 'your brain on porn', and 'fight the new drug' websites.

On urges: when you get the urge to watch porn, think about what you value most (eg. your mental and physical health), which is greatly effected in watching porn VS not watching it, so make a decision based on that. And if it's really bad, get away from computer/phone, and go outside or talk to people in real life.​

I'll leave it at that, but any other questions feel free to ask!

 

Hello, Maxwell. I have just one little thing to add to Reborn's good suggestions. If PMOing in bed at night is a problem/habit, it might be good to take the simple step of removing access to porn from the room where your bed is. Lock your phone in your car at night, or leave your laptop at work. Some alcoholics ask hotels to keep the minibar locked during their stay, and don't keep booze in the house (maybe not even NyQuil!). For me, it's these simple, practical measures that have helped a lot. Good luck -- I'm rooting for you!

 

With urges specifically, I practice something called “urge surfing.”

Focus on the feeling wherever it is. Listen to it, accept that it’s there. It will feel like waves crashing. But just sit with it Eventually it will pass.

 

Think on why you really want to quit this evil habit.
Focus all your energy in building something new/creative.. Anything, think of creative way of talking with people, think how can you handle stressful situation.
Stop alcohol and non-veg completely.
Exercise regularly. Put all your effort in cultivating a good health.
All the best, all of us are here to win..
Lets WIN!

 

If alcohol causes you to relapse then you probably shouldn't drink it.

This journey won't be easy. My advice is to stay focused on succeeding and fill your time with productive activities.

You got this!