THE TEAM CHALLENGE.

I know my team mates are counting on it, and I will!

Thank you for the encouragement, Batman, means a lot and I'll take it to heart.

 

Check in.
Next 5 days I am on the road, may be that I won't check in very often...

 

Checking in!

 

Checkin Wednesday

 

I relapsed twice.

 

Another strike for me too! I'm sorry @Castielle. Same deal as last time. Slept badly during the night and found myself not being able to fall asleep again early in the morning. One of the things that kept me awake was a lot of urges. Couldn't take a shower or do something else as I'm visiting my family and didn't want to wake everyone up. This together with a bunch of other excuses made me decide to masturbate after which I eventually fell asleep again. I'm disappointed that I didn't make it, but compared to last time I avoided thinking about porn and pushed away those thoughts immediately. Also avoided another strike this morning. So some progress seems to have happened. I'm a bit worried about these sleeping problems, idk why I've started getting them now. Perhaps because I'm sick, or because of stress or both...

Wish the best to you all!

I'm sorry to hear that! You've been doing great! Get back up again!

 

I am not doing great, but I am trying my best. Discouraged currently. And thinking about making new ideas in here.

Guys we have 60 days left. Instead of checking in and reporting relapses, what about making it more useful to share what worked with us to improve our streak and what was triggering that we had to avoid?

 

I think we can all share both failures and successes and help each other figure out ways to improve.

 

I will focus on that in this thread! This would help me

 

What currently works for me: Treat my sexual desires as a small person inside me, who wants to be treated respectfully.
Not eradicate him, not to make him shut up, rather to convince him to join to my goals, to convert his energy into something that's helpful for the both of us.
He will always be there, so it's important that he's a friend not an enemy. If you treat him like an enemy he will certainly work against you.
Maybe that sounds strange, but it's not. I know that's there's no real person, but it is useful to find a way that's not violent to myself.

 

To be honest I was disappointed recently for not getting any better since a long time, while the majority of members I see here have got through a better progress, although I believe I have applied great strategies and ideas on my lifestyle, yet still not getting any change . Last two days my blockers were getting unlocked for unknown reason, i had the thoughts to use that to get into my fantasies. I refused until I got into the same fault i get always through. I hope this time I can make something better

 

Another relapse for me, sorry @spaces. Had a sexual dream and i'm still sick, so i didn't have the energy to fight it.

 

I tried to understand this and link it to self honesty and confession. And maybe I got an Idea about rewiring my brain. And this is in 2 points :

• Convincing myself and trying to change my thought from a fantasy to the natural thought about how to objectify things that trigger me.
• This thing I just started thinking about today, what if I accepted what I have in such a peaceful way. That this might be a trigger and a fine thing, but the path I am approaching to award this trigger is not the right way and it will lead me to the unatural and unhealthy result, that will end up in giving me nothing but worse.

 

Sorry mate, I know you can always be better
But sexual dreams (wet dreams) are not a relapse if that was the case

 

No, i had a strong sexual dream then gave in to urges when i woke up, but thanks.

 

Do you often MO ar night like that? Because that might be contributing to your sleeping problems. Ig you do something enough times, at the same time, your body will come to expect that it's time to MO.

Also, what exactly is giving you trouble with sleep? You said urges, so there are ways to avoid those I'm sure. But what else? Is it your brain that's too alert, or is your body uncomfortable, or...?

No worries, though, man. I hope you can get to the bottom of your sleep problems, because I know how much that sucks. I've been having some trouble with that this past week too. My mind is just wide awake and alert when I'm trying to go to sleep, and its really frustrating.

 

For me, the main think has been shutting down all sexual thoughts as soon as they arise, unless I'm about to have sex. If I'm not about to have sex, then those thoughts serve absolutely no useful purpose for me and will only give me problems. I'll be honest, though, I've also been praying a lot that God would just completely take away my desire for PMO, and I think that has contributed a LOT to my current streak. Because I've tried shutting down thoughts before, and it hasn't always worked this well.

Another thing is keeping busy, but not just with mindless work. Be busy with something your excited and passionate about. It's hard, because you can't always force that, but lately I've been really really excited and my YouTube channel and the book I'm working on making some great progress, and setting writing and reading goals for myself each month. So I hardly ever have a time that I'm just sitting around being bored.

I also dont watch much TV lately, except with my husband, which I only just now realized might be really good for my progress here. I used to kind of absently start MOing while watching TV sometimes, even if I wasnt watching anything sexual, just mostly out of habit. So since I've been reading more instead, that has changed things up a bit. So maybe changing your usual patterns and habits could help.

 

Good advice