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I am confused about my sexuality (maybe influenced by porn addiction?)

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Tonton, Aug 31, 2018.

  1. Tonton

    Tonton Fapstronaut

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    Now it is 9 days I am off of PMO and sincerely I feel more and more attracted to woman. Till now I never had any kind of difficulty pleasuring myself... sometimes I have some thoughts but they go away fast. So I must say, quitting porn was a must. Now I plan to nofap for this entire month to see if ideas will be clearer. Anyway thanks everybody
     
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  2. MikeDownUnder

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    Great to hear that. Hope you finish your goal and is satisfied of the result.
     
  3. My dude. If you watch other mens’ penises since being a teen, and do so on a daily basis there’s bound to be some affect. Different people are wired differently and it seems like after excessive use of porn some of us develop these fantasies while others, miraculously or not, don’t. Of course, a lot of people might find my theory debatable, but there are indeed a lot of guys who have spoken of such issues. To conlude: I urge you not to experiment and not to give in to this shit. The deeper you dive into this rabbit hole (no metaphor here folks), the tougher it’ll be to restore things back to how they should be. The only thing to save you is your discipline.
     
  4. I agree with you bro, human sexuality can be lower than animals. For 10 years I've struggled with attraction to transsexual and crossdresser (with me as top) and eventually met some. I'm trying my best to get out of it and am getting there as it just feels wrong for me.
     
  5. MikeDownUnder

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    What do you do when you think or feel about the urge?
     
  6. Sometimes I can resist, others I end up looking at pictures but not doing anything. Ideally you need to avoid triggering the urge in the 1st place, because thinking 'I'll just look at a few pics bit not act on it's, you often do eventually, maybe few days after or something.
     
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  7. SandsOfTime

    SandsOfTime Fapstronaut

    I agree..nice saying...
     
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  8. SandsOfTime

    SandsOfTime Fapstronaut

    It's True. porn addictor looking at any sextual contents and doing nothing is 99.9% impossible. A Small trigger also enough to drag us at somewhere. Never play with triggers as it escalates from Soft to hardcore, then hardcore to more abusive, more to more more and at some stage unable to control it. Maintaining high levels of dopamine with out ejaculation is dangerous. That high level we never get from real partner and it leads to erectle dysfunction.
     
    Last edited: Sep 19, 2018
  9. reboot_8716

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    Agreed. And even things like reading about it too much can get your mind going. I found myself surfing sex toys online as a way to cheat and think about it a bit without P and M but realized it was having essentially the same effect as watching P
     
  10. Zamyou

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    Heya ive had a similar fetish too but its been way more intense these past years along with the OCD i have...
    But noFap has definitely helped me to lessen the anxiety and the arousals... i feel more normalized sexually and mentally
     
  11. ClaritySeeker

    ClaritySeeker Fapstronaut

    Hi Tonton, just finished reading your journal. From your initial writing, it sounds like you are a crossdresser, but through porn you have become confused about your sexuality. I don't think you mentioned if you liked penis or men before porn. I'm guessing you didn't like those things until after porn. There is nothing wrong with being bi/gay (personally I'm straight), but from what you wrote, it doesn't sound like that's you. I think it would be OK to meet a crossdresser, but I definitely would not cross the line of having sex with them until you have seriously completed Hard Mode and see what you want after that. I think your reality has become warped through P addiction. I hope your reboot is going well, you should give us an update.

    I agree with you that porn is evil, but you are incorrect when you say there are no gay animals. Look it up, gay animals exist. People can become twisted by porn and do gay acts and this is evil, but being born gay/bi is not evil. You should understand the difference between these two things. Yes, don't let P win.

    It's good that God helps you, but not everyone believes in God, pushing God onto others could be considered evil to non-believers.
     
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