Abstaining From Facebook

Cool story bro.

Lol, I don't mean that sarcastically.

I deleted facebook a couple weeks ago. It was such a shallow and meaningless experience for me. All the people I stayed in contact with I knew from my childhood or in high school. My current friends don't use facebook. But I know that eventually, either through work or personal relationships, I'm going to need to open up an account again.

And I'm fine with that. I don't have anything against facebook, or any social medium for that matter. I think social media is great, and can be used skillfully and intelligently for awesome things.

It's all about how you use it and who you associate with on it. Facebook/Instagram/Pinterest, it's all about what you do on there and who you do it with.

 

I kind of did that for almost a year now, I only keep my fb acount for ky college group to know what's new and for exams ajd studying help, if it wasn't for that group I'd have deactivated it no question, but what I did is that I unliked all the pages that'd post these pictures you're talking about, I even unliked hot celebrities pages so I don't see something that gives me an urge, so if you want to keep Facebook at least do that, and hey you seem to know Facebook is a problem to you, then I think you shouldn't even consider keeping it, since it might lead to something you wouldn't like I say lose it. good luck.

 

Facebook is the killer app for feeding low self esteem.
It seems this is very common in a lot of people, that's why Mark Zuckerberg became so big. He is world's biggest drug seller ...

Since my PMO addiction faded away, I have widely lost interest in facebook.
But you can see it as a nice tool. It is best to use it to connect to people you REALLY know and who you MEET IN REALITY. Just see it as a messenger app and a tool to connect to these people, but just a little bit, mainly you should aim to have actual real connections.

 

I try to avoid Facebook, as going on it usually coincides with going on porn for me. I probably on average only go on about 4 time a month now. When Im procrastinating and I think 'let's see what Facebook is saying' I stop and think for a second and just realise there's never anything interesting or worthwhile on there

 

I completely agree with you, FreedomFlight. During my first months of recovery I used to have a PMO counter for Facebook, just to check in once per month.

The same as FreedomFlight, I suggest FB use mainly to notice events that you're really interested in going or to keep up with a group with whom you share a common interest that can help you to develop as a person. For example, "book of the month club", "running club", etc.

Yesterday I made a little slip: I checked the FB of a girl that I personally know, that I find physically attractive but I don't consider interesting in other aspects, because I wanted to know "how his boyfriend looked like". The kind of nonsensical thoughts "why can't I be with someone that looks like her? Why him and not me?". But I wasn't looking for "the rush", it was more of those moments where you start playing against your own team (yourself), where you -for some reason- want to lower your self steem. Is like to be unemployed and to look at working happy people, smiling. Why do we do that?

My advice for those who can't or don't want to delete their account is to reduce it to the minimum: deactivate notifications to your mail adress, log off from groups that can be harmful to you (for example, if you're following a movie star), delete unnecessary contacts: people you don't care about and that probably don't care about you either. I think it's better to have a small number of trustworthy people than a big number of estrangers that don't have any meaning for you.

 

I check it every time I turn on my phone, like every 5 minutes. It doesn't make me feel good about myself or my lack of a social life.