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My Full Story (and I have a few problems that I can't solve, please help)/All-in-one Thread

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AnmysUser18312, Mar 22, 2018.

Do you think I should masturbate just for the sake of solvemainproblem (NoFap day count adjustment)?

  1. Yes, you should.

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  2. No, it's not worth it. The most important thing is recovering, not the NoFap day count number.

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  1. I don't know the science behind it, I'm afraid, but www.yourbrainonporn.com should answer these questions for you.

    But simply watching porn, without MO, is training your brain to objectify people, that is, looking at them like they are sex objects. Like how adverts train you to want their products - you may not buy the product immediately. But if you view them often enough, one day you'll break down.

    Have a look at the site, and share what you learn.
     
  2. rayzyzz

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    Hey man I have no idea whether it has any damage on body, but I am pretty sure it will affect you negatively if you do it too much. For me personally or for a lot of people out there, it will be extremely hard to control the number of masturbation (even the Buddha). PMO produce dopamine just like drug ,it will get you addicted and damage you mentally and it is a huge barrier for you to achieve anything in life. I have PMO history of 9 years. I am pretty confident that I could have achieve a lot more if spend the time to do something meaningful instead of this useless thing. I wish I had joined nofap and had someone who can give me good advice when I was small, I hope every teenager can cherish this site and eventually free from slavery of pmo. Hope it helps and tell me if you have any other questions
     
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  3. According to me you should go for 90 days hard mode in order to get real woman attraction
     
  4. Hi
    I think what you describe are not problems with masturbation, it's all about puberty. No need to worry too much.
    Certainly you are gay. And please do not try to "heal" this. Is not easy to be gay in some countries, but "healing" does seriously damage your soul. You are okay, just as you are. Don't try to botch around and destroy your happiness.
    There seems to be another thing, too. As you wrote you get sexually aroused by looking at your own body. This may be another kind of queer orientation, I don't know much about it, but you'll find on the internet.
    Second, masturbation before puberty is a normal thing, too, and does no harm. Masturbation at all - if not adictively used - does no harm. This is scientifically proven.
    Quitting masturbation doesn't help, and there's no need for you to do it. But if you've got to do it in order to live a happy life, then you should, but without blaming yourself for your (natural) sex drive. It's not an easy way to choose.
     
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    Some peeps are affected due to over masturbation & become hyper sensitive & they think they are gay but quitting masturbation for a period of time can cure them
     
  6. yes, you're right. I wanted to express this by saying "if not addictively used"
    The point is, everybody finds itself somewhere in a spectrum between gay and hetero. Under certain circumstances you may be more sensitive to your gay part. I would not call any movements there "cure", because it is not an illness to be gay.
     
  7. AnmysUser18312

    AnmysUser18312 Fapstronaut

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    Finally someone gave me a satisfactory answer, thanks for the help... do you mean I do not have to heal my gay problem? Then am I going to be able to marry and have children in the future if I am unable to be sexually attracted to female? What do you think about this?
     
  8. If you are not attracted to girls it may be a problem to marry one, don't you think so?
    Maybe your bisexual, then you may "choose" which way to live.
    If not, in some countries gay couples are allowed to adopt children.
    However, there's no other way than accepting yourself as you are and make the best our of it.
     
  9. AnmysUser18312

    AnmysUser18312 Fapstronaut

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    Bisexual? You mean I still can marry but just have to try to force myself to like woman? What if I don't want to be a gay couple adopting children but prefer to marry and have real children? Do you mean just accept myself and no need to cure it? I don't really understand your message, sorry.
     
  10. I don't know which orientation you really are. It's up to you to know this.
    What I wanted to say is, you can't change your orientation, you have to accept it and make the best out of it. If you are interested, there's a good book on this topic, Boy Erased, from Garrard Conley. It's autobiographic, it's as it how destructive conversion "therapy" is.
     
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