please help, chat room issue

You have just replaced porn by these chats, so the biggest part of job have not been done yet. Does the problem concern only using chats or also masturbation while being there? Nevertheless I suggest you not to spend time alone, especially with computer within reach. You need to reconsider when you usually use that chats and what do you feel that gives you.

 

You took a step which is great. Sadly chat in that way is just another form of porn stimulation, your brain feeding off of it and keeping you in the same state.
Try to get out and away from the screen and temptation.

 

chatting and phoning is actually an escalation of porn, and the next step are sex adventures.

Try to stop everything for a while and look into yourself what "gap" is opening up.
With the chatting, you are probably filling up your self esteem. Or you are escaping from working, from conflicts with people, maybe you are afraid of having success.

 

So just accept that sometimes you feel bad, even awful. It is normal. However, if you feel bad focus on understanding what is going on and how you can stop it instead of looking for way to feel good. You need to cope with your emotions, not artificially replace it by the 'good' stuff.

 

You're welcome