How I cured my sexual disfunctions (ED and PIED and desensitization) and how you can to

Loved this. Loved your post.

I relapsed so many times thinking "pfff NoFap is bullshit, just for church people, I'm just fucked up, give up man".

Your post give more reasons to keep my dick away from my hand.

Thank you.

 

Glad I read this thread....

Ever since I was 16, my erections slowly began getting weaker and weaker. My erections used to be so hard, they almost hurt (seriously)! I wasn’t having sex very often, but did begin M around 14 - 15 years old.

I used to only use my imagination to M but eventually moved into PMO around 15 - 16. I also started drinking & smoking around age 16 (not cigs or blacks).

I proceeded to PMO until about 22 years of age. During this time I’ve had GFs & have had intercourse with my erections at about 40% hard compared to how they used to be before I started smoking, drinking, & PMO.

My most significant ex noticed when my erections were less hard than usual (This happened especially when I had a drink or I smoked. I never had sex with her with my erection past 60% hard, but she seemed to be satisfied for the most part..)

I have a foot fetish & realized I had this fetish since a very young age (4 or 5 years old). I’m attracted to a female’s body, butt, breasts, etc, but feet as well, maybe feet more than anything else. My ex was very understanding of my fetish & didn’t mind letting me do whatever to her feet (smell them, O on them, whatever)

Unfortunately, I was so used to PMO the sex was no longer enjoyable. Most nights I would quietly M and O after intercourse because I didn’t feel the full satisfaction when having intercourse with her, it almost felt like a chore to have real intercourse.... she was cute & everything I just wasn’t into it because of my ED

Sometimes I’d M looking at her feet or imagine her or another girl. I imagined because M & O felt better than actual intercourse. I also think me M’ing through my boxers with a flaccid dick probably made my ED worse (I M’ed this way for at least 5 years. The “normal” way is much less satisfying for me)

I recently had intercourse with a female but was unable to stay erect in the condom. I normally last a little longer without a condom but still nowhere near 100% (maybe like 40% - 45%).

We attempted intercourse at least 3 times, but the longest and most potent attempt occured when I had her doggy style, stroking her while holding her feet (just having my hands on her feet helped but erection still only 50% - 55% & didn’t last long)

For too long I’ve been BSing, pretending that P, M, O, smoking, & drinking were okay and didn’t contribute to my weak erections.... THAT ENDS TODAY!

Starting 7/19/18, I promise to put P, M, O, & drinking all behind me! I know P & drinking will be extremely easy because I haven’t been doing much of either for the past year (I’m 23). The hard part will be to stop M & O but I will definitely stop it if it means I can have my old erections back!

I do plan to smoke while exercising 3 times a week, eating healthy (relatively), & COMPLETELY STOPPING drinking, P, M & O. If after 30 days I don’t see a significant change, I will stop smoking completely. As much as I enjoy it, having my normal erection back is MUCH, MUCH more important!

If you’ve made it this far I truly appreciate you reading & hope you will support me in my journey. Any advice is appreciated! Best of luck to all of you! I will keep you all updated on my progress!!

P.S: Sorry for this long post haha

 

fam. youre still trying?

 

DAY 1

Had a very hard time falling asleep. Felt the urge to M before I went to sleep but resisted. I tried to fall asleep around 9:00pm.

It took me roughly 90 minutes to fall asleep around 10:30. I then woke up again around 1:15am & struggled for 15 more minutes to sleep.

Weirdest thing about Day 1 was I kept getting semi-hard erections (maybe 55 - 60%) while trying to fall asleep, but no morning wood. I know it’ll be a long process but overall Day 1 showed me there will be some growing pains, not to rush anything, & stick to the plan no matter what

 

That's the terrible flatline and it is worse if u used to masturbate while watching porn. And what is funny is when I relapsed after rewiring my erections to real sex, I watch porn a lot and don't get erections... But the rush of dopamine is there.

 

DAY 2 & 3

Very rainy Friday night & Saturday night here... As much as I wanted to M, I resisted (having too much time on your hands is almost never good haha)

It took me roughly 30 minutes to fall asleep around 9:30pm both nights.

I decided to QUIT smoking for good!!... So as of now I’m on Day 4 of no Drinking, no P, no M, & no O.

Add smoking to that list too (this will be the first day I don’t smoke). I realize as much as I enjoyED smoking, it has many adverse effects & will only delay my progress!

I will update you guys on any relapses I may have but I’m fully focused on the reboot & believe in myself to see it through to the end!

 

good luck

 

No matter what you can’t rush the process.

 

DAY 4 & 5

I broke my promise of not smoking Day 5.. Still no drinking, no P, no M, no O throughout the first 5 days. I’m fully aware of the effects smoking can have on my recovery so I do plan to stop.

Besides smoking, falling asleep has been my biggest issue so far but it’s slowly getting easier. Still, it took about 20 - 25 minutes to actually fall asleep Day 4, 15 minutes Day 5.

Morning wood did occur Day 5 (only 50% - 55% hard). Hopefully this is a sign of progress but I know I can’t rush the process & it will take time.

With each day it becomes a little bit easier not to M.. The urge is definitely still there but it seems to be easier to ignore than on Day 1.. I kept my promise on everything else so far; now I have to stop smoking

Here’s a secret. It’s A-L-O-T easier to resist PMO (& smoking) when we keep ourselves BUSY. Even if it’s just walking around the mall or working out it’s best to get out of the house AT LEAST 1hr a day if possible. I guarantee it will help.

Staying in the house all day is definitely NOT what i’d recommend. Being around your bed & having access to the internet the entire day will only tempt you to PMO & delay your progress!

 

DAY 6 & 7

Wow it doesn’t even feel like I went a week without drinking or PMO but I did and it was much easier than I thought it would be. I still have urges to M but they’re getting pretty easy to ignore, especially now because I’m feeling harder erections already. (Still not saying I’m cured or rushing the process, just stating how I feel compared to Day 1)

P & Drinking were not major problems for me before I began nofap so that might be why my progress is different. I experienced random erections that were about 60% hard during Day 7.

Day 7 is also the first day I didn’t struggle much to fall asleep. I was sleep after about 10 minutes.

I truly don’t think drinking, P, M, or O will be a problem for me moving forward.. I will slow down on how often I post on here unless significant changes occur or I suffer a relapse.

I will also stop smoking soon I plan to start this Monday coming up (7/30/18)

Take control of your body, don’t let your body control you

 

Cool man! Happy for your progress!

 

Hey man - basically on the same cycle in terms of days. Keep up the good work.

If I knew what I know now about porn when I was your age I reckon I’d be running the company I work in, have a couple of kids and travelled a hell of a lot more. The porn - it holds you down. Be strong!

 

Such a great post thanks for the motivation and success story OP! I can and WILL do this.

 

I reached phase 3 in three weeks but that doesn't mean I am cured.

 

DAY 8 - 11

I experienced a random erection that felt significantly harder than what I’ve felt in a long time.(maybe 65%). I believe this was Day 9.

I think i’m currently going through the “flatline” phase. After feeling that erection Day 9, there hasn’t been much action sense. No morning wood or anything.

I’m not concerned about the flatline as I know it’s a part of the process. I spent most of the weekend (Day 10 & 11) smoking since I’m going to stop today (7/30/18).

By the way, I had PLENTY of chances to drink over the weekend and did NOT do it. It was very tempting but I’m doing enough damage with the smoking and decided to smoke while my friends were drunk haha.

Besides all that, I thought it would be beneficial to share some things I’ve noticed so far while doing nofap (Not guaranteeing the same results or timeline for you, just reporting some of the differences I feel compared to Day 1)....

1.) More confident and calm (I feel like I’m socially awkward but a lot of that feeling has gone away since I’ve stared nofap)
2.) Feeling of higher awareness & energy
3.) Slightly deeper voice (very slight difference but I can hear my natural voice is slightly deeper than normal without trying to make it seem that way.

These are just 3 off the top of my head. I would probably have even greater progress if I didn’t smoke. Again, I can’t guarantee how fast your recovery will be, how your timeline will be, or how you will feel.

With that being said, I CAN guarantee nofap works & that the urge to M will always be there, BUT YOU CAN RESIST! CONTROL YOUR BODY NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND!

Also I know I’m still not cured, but the progress feels so good it’s definitely worth it. This isnt BS. If you stick with the plan you WILL notice the difference. No matter how long it takes, it’s worth it!

 

Stop smoking

 

DAY 12 - 16
*sorry in advance for the long post*

The urge to M is still there but the fact that I’ve gone this far & other people have successfully recovered makes me not want to mess up. I feel 100% confident saying I will not relapse when it comes to PMO. My erections don’t feel that much harder compared to my last post, but I’ve gotten them a lot more frequently.

I haven’t had much trouble falling asleep or any of the common negative traits that come with nofap. I understand for some people, the negative effects occur later in the process. I’m crossing my fingers I will be lucky enough to avoid this.

I plan to try to meet some girls around my area so that when I am fully healthy I will be able to “test the waters”. (I know, I know, women aren’t just sex objects but let’s be honest, how could I know I’m fully healed without having sex? If I end up liking the girl, great! But for now I’m just looking for a cute girl to have sex with). Depending on the situation, I may try earlier than 30 days to attempt sex (I’m on Day 17 as of 8/4/18).

I continue to see signs of progress, but will admit I am nowhere near 100%. These past few days have been a lot less stressful for me than I thought they would be, and like I’ve said before, I don’t believe I will relapse. I am not a patient person, but I know there is no way to rush the process. The sad truth is it could take multiple months until I’m completely cured. I’m okay with that.

I’m okay with that because I’m 100% dedicated to the process. Lately I’ve been lifting in the gym & making a conscious effort to eat better. I have noticed significant improvement as far as my overall health and mind state (nofap may have also played a role in that).

I need to take my own advice and control my body and not let my body control me when it comes to smoking. I still have not quit yet and that’s the only thing holding me back from fully feeling the benefits and making the process as short as possible. I feel like smoking is like P for other people. Every time I do it, I feel good, but then I end up feeling guilty that I’m doing it.

We feel guilty when doing these things because we know it’s hurting our progress. I know I need to stop. I recently moved so I literally have no friends where I’m at and anything fun to do is at least 30 minutes away. I just started a new job I don’t have a lot of money to go out everyday. It’s like every time I end up bored at my house with nothing to do so I smoke.

Honestly these are no excuses for me smoking because I made a promise to cut that out. I’m allowing my body to control my actions. I will stop I just have to find a way to stay busy/productive even when there is nothing to do and I’m just laying at home.

Even when we’re bored out of our minds, there is something that could be done. There’s not one person on this earth who can say they’ve done every thing they want and/or need to do in their lives. You can even google “100 things to do when I’m bored” for some ideas.

Staying active is something that goes hand-in-hand with not fapping. As long as you’re able to stay busy, nofap will become much easier. You’ll begin to find other interests and worry less about healing.

When we sit around and think about the same issue repeatedly, knowing we can’t do anything except wait until our body naturally heals, it does nothing but cause us to worry longer.

It is best to take a little bit of time away from the issue and do something else to give your mind a break. When it comes to my ED I can truly feel the recovery happening. This is not something I can make up.

I believe the ability to have actual sex without being embarrassed you can’t truly satisfy your partner is WAYY more important than any temporary discomfort that comes from PMO. I guess it’s easier to say that since I haven’t experienced many negative effects. I believe my current mentality will help me quit smoking & fully recover from ED sooner or later

 

I can reach a solid 100% erection having sex once each 4/5 days, but if I O more frequently, my erection start to be weaker. Mostly, now i'm not sure i can have sex two times close each other.
Should i keep rewiring with my girlfriend or not? How many times per week?

Briefly, when i stay in hardmode my penis takes fire, it really works perfectly, morning wood, spontaneous erection during the day and so on, but when i start having sex, it goes to be weaker slowly.
For this reason, I'm scared that maybe it is a physical issue, even if ormones are good.

My story: 20 years old, I used to watch a lot of porn in the past. I had a strong pied 2 years ago when i started having sex, after it i haven't had sex for 10 months and it take me back to my path, cause i restarted watching porn (but just once/twice a week).

 

I’m not an expert on this, but I would definitely STOP P COMPLETELY! At least for a solid 3 months to see if you notice anything different.

Continue having sex with your gf just without porn. Even if you eventually can’t get it up after a while, at least they’re at 100% for a little while. Once you completely stop watching P, you should be just fine.

 

DAY 17 & 18

I was so bored last night that I kept thinking about MO but I didn’t do it. This goes back to me having too much time on my hands. Especially at night time. Erections are still about 60 - 65% hard whenever I do get them.

I decided to throw ALL of my smoke away so I can truly begin healing. So this is Day 1 of no smoke. I’m ready to prove to myself that I’m mentally strong enough to put an end to smoking (Day 1) and PMO (Day 19) for good!

I workout early in the morning before work. I rarely feel motivated to go after work and would rather “force” myself to go early before work.

Besides working out, watching netflix, and playing video games, I honestly don’t do too much of anything. This is mostly because I’m in a new area where I really don’t know anybody.

After work today, I plan to visit the outside mall around my area. Just so I can walk around, possibly meet new people, and actually DO SOMETHING (can’t even explain how bored I am here most of the time). In order to defeat my boredom, I’m going to respond to it differently.

Instead of complaining or smoking when I’m bored, I’ll workout, do some reading/research, or something else productive. If, for whatever reason I can’t do these things, I’ll just start watching a new Netflix series or take a nap! Taking naps will help make time go by faster & takes away the “pressure” of finding something to do when bored.

(By the way, The Office is HILARIOUS & contains 9 seasons so it will take a lot of your time just to watch the whole series. If you’re looking for something to watch, you’re welcome )

The only thing is, IM ACTUALLY GOING TO DO THESE THINGS instead of just talking about it. I’m a HUGE football fan so once the NFL season starts that will help with the boredom too.

Make a conscious effort to keep yourself busy or go to sleep when bored. TRY IT FIRST BEFORE YOU ASSUME IT WONT WORK!!

If this doesn’t work, anytime you feel the urges, you’ll have to remind yourself why you started nofap in the first place. Remember what your goal is and how important it is to you!

My goal is to be able to have my rock hard erections back and not having any doubt in my mind that I can fully satisfy whatever girl I’m with. I want to be able to O with no issues and start a family one day. To me, this is 1000 times more important than me wanting to PMO or smoking.

We all want to change something about ourselves. The people who do it successfully are the ones who believe they can! So believe! Constantly remind yourself that whatever you’re trying to gain out of nofap is way more important than that 10 minutes of satisfaction from PMO.

Good luck to all of you!