Is it too late for me?

No it is not too late and do not sweat it. Your experience was very similar to mine when I was your age, so I hope the advice I give you will help you so you do not make the same mistakes that I made .

Turel, sometimes and many times we meet the wrong woman, or we are with them for the wrong reasons. Some women are on the rebound, some will leave their boyfriends to be with us , some because they were lonely and some for a fling. And we are no better, we will go out with these women because they showed interest, because we had a lack of self esteem, we have been single too long and we just wanted a girlfriend. But we did not do it for love.

When a woman dumps us, we feel down, bitter, anxious and insecure. Instead of moving on and trying to become a better person, we stay attached to the past, we binge on porn, masturbation, waste time cruising at bars and dating sites.

So here's the advice I'm going to give you my young friend. Do not stress out if you have been single for a long time. I have seen too many of my friends running after women because they were afraid to be on their own instead of taking time to be on their own. A lot of people I know are in relationships where they are unhappy. This is why sometimes being on your own is a good thing, a time where you can discover who you truly are, with your qualities and flaws, better yourself, read a lot of books, practice hobbies, challenge yourself and get out of your comfort zone. And once you find inner peace and happiness without exterior factors, you will meet lots of nice girls, quality girls.

So do not stress that you have been on your own for a while and stress if you will have a girlfriend next week, a month from here or next year. Just be happy, mindful and do what you have to do today. The rest will follow.

 

Hi guys. I'm 35 and have never had a girlfriend, am still a virgin, but have 20 years experience with PMO. I am truly committed now to cutting out PMO from my life and am feeling very confident about it. Of course I deal with loneliness and always have. With cutting out PMO, I feel I'm in a better position to change that. However, 20 years of PMO has totally warped my view of women and relationships and sex, and I am totally immature in these areas. Quitting PMO by itself is not enough. It's not about quitting PMO and instantly turning in to Mr. Suave. It's not about how many girls you can now start dating, or have sex with. Instead, this is now the time to really work on myself and transform my view of women, relationships, and sex. To jump in to those things without changing on the inside would be irresponsible and setting self up for failure. I'm also not entitled to anything. Not entitled to a girlfriend, or to having sex. It was easy to say during all this time that I've been alone that I was "just working on myself". But that wasn't true because I wasn't working on the addiction. I was mistaken about who I really was. Now is the time to finally really work on myself. So my plan is to do a lot of reflection on love and relationships, minus the cloud of PMO, and see where that gets me. I have also been breaking out of my isolation and going to Meetup groups, where I have the opportunity to meet women, many of them single. In fact there are Meetup groups for singles my age. These are great because I can be doing an activity I enjoy and am interested in, and meet like-minded people. So, by working on myself, developing a social life, doing things with people with similar interests, maybe I'll meet someone

 

[QUOTE = "SuperFurryThing, publicación: 1582877, miembro: 237437"] Hola chicos. Tengo 35 años y nunca he tenido novia, todavía soy virgen, pero tengo 20 años de experiencia con PMO. Estoy realmente comprometido ahora a eliminar PMO de mi vida y me siento muy seguro al respecto. Por supuesto que trato con la soledad y siempre tengo. Al eliminar PMO, siento que estoy en una mejor posición para cambiar eso. Sin embargo, 20 años de PMO han deformado totalmente mi visión de las mujeres y las relaciones y el sexo, y soy totalmente inmadura en estas áreas. Dejar de PMO por sí solo no es suficiente. No se trata de renunciar a PMO e instantáneamente entregarse al Sr. Suave. No se trata de cuántas chicas puedes empezar a salir o tener relaciones sexuales. En cambio, este es el momento de trabajar realmente conmigo mismo y transformar mi visión de las mujeres, las relaciones y el sexo. Saltar a esas cosas sin cambiar por dentro sería irresponsable y configurarse para el fracaso. Tampoco tengo derecho a nada. No tiene derecho a una novia, ni a tener relaciones sexuales. Durante todo este tiempo, fue fácil decir que estuve solo y que estaba "solo trabajando en mí mismo". Pero eso no era cierto porque no estaba trabajando en la adicción. Estaba equivocado acerca de quién era realmente.Ahora es el momento de finalmente trabajar conmigo mismo. Entonces, mi plan es reflexionar mucho sobre el amor y las relaciones, menos la nube de PMO, y ver a dónde me lleva eso. También he estado saliendo de mi aislamiento y yendo a grupos Meetup, donde tengo la oportunidad de conocer mujeres, muchas de ellas solteras. De hecho, hay grupos de Meetup para solteros de mi edad. Estos son geniales porque puedo estar haciendo una actividad que disfruto y me interesa, y conocer gente de ideas afines. Entonces, trabajando en mí mismo, desarrollando una vida social, haciendo cosas con personas con intereses similares, tal vez me encuentre con alguien [/ QUOTE]
Hola bienvenido salir adelante ser libre dueño de ti para poder dar el paso siguiente entregarte alguien, si tu dueño es PMO nunca te podrás entregar a alguien. Ánimo

 

Gracias!