How to break through in NoFap (when you Relapse a lot)

My Brothers,

I know it is hard. NoFap is a challenge only the ‘right men’ can go through. What do I mean with the ‘right men’. I mean the men who are honest and true to themselves. You HAVE to acknowledge that you are currently broken, disappointed and out of control of where you truly want to be. Being honest about your weaknesses is the first step to overcoming the hold of PMO over us.

Once you really understand that you are addicted and out of control you can take away the guilt and blame. Now you are free of one of the holds of PMO. Now you are free to truly recover. Understand that every time you feel like PMO’ing, it is not YOUR DESIRE, but the addiction trying to dictate your habits. Recognize that your urges to PMO are not what YOU want, thus every time you feel the urge, you can say to yourself: ‘NO, not this time, I will not succumb to my inner demons again’. Now you have broken free from the shadow of PMO.

Now you are free to go to the next phase: distracting your life away from PMO to weaken all bonds to PMO. This phase usually takes place after 14 days. That is why so many brothers can’t make it past 14 days, because this part is the hardest. You must fill the empty void in your emotional well being with other things. Your mind and body are deprived now of the PMO habit and are in distress. You need to give your mind and body other goals and desires to make them ‘forget’ about PMO. Do this for about 90 days and your body and mind have accustomed to healthy other lifestyles and feel no more need to PMO’ing.

Now you probably will still feel urges up to your 90 or 120 day mark, but the urges will get less, and your interests in PMO'ing will get less. Why? Because your body has now seen that there is so much more to life than PMO'ing. Your body and mind now crave true love for life and all that life is. Most people who break through the 45 day mark become really free of PMO. After the 45 days you have shown yourself that you can be free and stay free. But to stay free for life, you must remember yourself in hard times why you quit PMO and why you chose the path of freedom and power.

Stay strong my Brothers. NoFap is our greatest gift and curse.