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Got nudes. Did i relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Youngman21, Jun 25, 2018.

  1. programer

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    You shall not fear Temptations for only in your fight against it can your strength be found. Deleting them shows that you are willing to quit and go and start a new life.
     
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  2. It is way worse! I'm here because of my addiction to sexting and it sucks big time.
     
  3. Youngman21

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    Exactly theres no reset in that!!! You live and you learn. It was actually my first time sexting on my nofap streak. I can feel it was effecting me negativly so i deleted everything. And i tell myself no more stimulation from my phone only real life.
     
  4. Youngman21

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    For one i was sexting to see if the girl sending me nudes was actually who she depicted. And two so i know what the body of the girl i might smash looks like. And to see if she's truly a trophy so i can feel good. I did not look at the pictures only to be aroused that came naturally
     
  5. Youngman21

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    You make it way worse. Nude pics from a girl is just so you can see what the girls body you may potentially smash looks like. You turn it into a dompamine rush when you save the pics and get high off of them.
     
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    Hi Youngman21,
    I honestly think that you shouldn´t change complety but maybe you can change a week, just to indicate that yout did´t complete your task completely. because you probably trigger yout brain and should not get a away with it.
    Best of luck
    // Cjas
     
  7. Yanis

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    There is no day 1. You deleted the photos and it’s important to you to prolong your streak. You are on the right track. Enjoy your NO PMO journey and enjoy to learn. Most important: like yourself. You are a wonderful person. And if the moment comes you want to start with day 1 again (it definitely will not be the same day you started long time ago) - accept yourself, like yourself, love yourself. You are longing for true happiness and you want to get rid of addiction. All is well.
     
  8. Mitness

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    Well, in my opinion, in many cases where people try to heal, the counter has nothing to do with the actual healing, but more to show people how well they do. Healing is about yourself and only about yourself because when your truly healed, you're finally able to help other people.
    And youngman21, today you wrote that you did not find it a relapse, so why asking if you already have your own answer. Whats the purpose of the question?


    (btw, if you are trying to get nudes to pat yourself on the back but you wont call it a fix, porn is not your biggest problem in life. I hope you figure out yourself what that real problem is in your case;)
     
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  9. Youngman21

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    Half of you dudes probly can't even get a long streak going that's why your so critical on whats a reset. Misery loves company.
     
  10. Quexx

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    You're comparing yourself again :)

    Focus on YOUR goals. If you think staring at nudes for 5 minutes is OK, then it's OK. For me, it wouldn't be, but that's just a reflection of my goals.

    You posted this thread to get our opinion, yes? Otherwise I don't really see the point of creating this thread. Calling us names and bashing us down for giving our opinion, which you wanted, just because our opinion is different than yours, isn't the best way of going forward and helping each other.

    Remember that everyone is doing this for their own sake. Some people do it very hardcore, some do it very loosely, no way is wrong.
     
  11. Sad to say, you have got a real attitude problem. You have started this thread to have your ears tickled. Before you asked the question - did I relapse - you already decided you had not. There is nothing about your conduct in this thread that is constructive. In this latest post, you have a sarcastic swipe at people struggling to come to terms with their addiction.

    You have expressed no appreciation whatever for the responses you have had. You respect the vlogger goldjacketluke who should have reset numerous times on his so-called streak. Yet you disparage half of this community because, according to you, we "can't even get long streak going. Misery loves company." That is a dishonourable statement!
     
  12. Mitness

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    Yestereday i got 3 nude pictures from a girl (YIHA, GOOD BOY) on facebook messenger including 1 showing her chest wearing a braw (WOW, thats amazing. Good boy).
    I looked at each picture for around 5 minute's (Ow, this is going wrong). I later decided to delete both the conversation and pictures. (Oh no, you're such a good boy for deleting the pictures. I really think you are awesome. You're sooo good!)
    Do you see this as a relaspe (Because i dont think it's a relapse. I just wanted to get the attention i need because i cant give it to myself and etc etc.?) BTW im a few days away from a 6 month streak.

    Do you see where i'm going.. that's your problem.

    And i dont mean it bad. I've been there, done that.

    What helped me is to set my own goals based on my own moral compass. If you really feel the need to get compliments about how you are doing it, it mostly means you dont think yourself you're doing a good job..
     
  13. JJackson

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    Forget the counter, it doesn't really matter. Even if you fully PMO'd you wouldn't be back at day 1, thats just not how it works.

    Its like a fat guy going 6 months eating well and exercising. If he sat around for a week and ate fast food he wouldn't just immediately regain the 200 pounds he lost. He'd obviously regain some weight but he's nowhere near day 1 anymore.

    Just use what happened as a learning experience and move on, fuck the counter.
     
  14. Remember, he added latter:
    So he did solicit a sexual picture and he sent pics too. Were these nude/dick pics or what? There was intention, no doubt!
     
  15. Moon Shot

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    You are absolutely right. We dudes are what you call losers. Question(s): Why are you still justifying your choices, then? Do what you want to do, nobody's strongarming you. So why are you still here?
     
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  16. Youngman21

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    I moved on it was a one time thing 15 minutes vs 5 months i don't think sets me back do day 1 thats retarded. Its not like i watched a full on porn video and beat my meat. Thats would be a defenite reset and relapse. Sexting for 15 minutes then learning from it is not a DEFINITE reset.
     
  17. Moon Shot

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  18. Adam smithsonian30

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    Keep strong my brother,me myself had relapse this day ,i watch p that same p with actress i used to watch,got another by sneaking at cleavage ig account same account i used to go if im masturbate ,thankfully im just p not m and o and also please comment on my newest thread let me know what ur thought ,thx
     
  19. Youngman21

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    Your probly a newbe to this nofap thing setting new rules. Back when i started around 2 years ago you only reset if you relaspe. Casual sexting for the first time on a streak is not a relapse. After i did it i noticed it altered my brain a bit. So i decided to never go back to it. Newbes creating new rules. You guys are more interested in messaging each other on here relaspe after relapse than focusing on your recovery. I can already see it.
     
  20. Moon Shot

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    *Sigh* Looks like I won't be getting an answer. It's apparent that you do not appreciate the responses you have received. Gave it your way. Just stop comparing.

    All the best.
     
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