Tinder Addiction?

I was addicted to it at some point, this messes you up so much. You're like wow there so many hot girls out there how come I never get to talk to them or to even have a chance with them.
But keep in mind there are so many hot girls that are totally not worth it, plus I don't want to be with a girl who only cares about her appearance and love to show her attributes on tinder pics, sooooo many golddiggers that will depress you even more. Stay away from them

 

Well, the big news here is a no.1 famous and good University graduated female who killed by the boyfriend she got from Tinder...
Her bodies were torn apart into several pieces.
Her boyfriend, who had studied in the U.S. but had been bullied, then come back home, giving up his dream to become the police and turn to a fitness teacher. After few days he kills himself.
The police now trying to figure out how things turn out like that.
That is, the relationship between men and women is quite a thing.

 

I was addicted to variius dating apps, constantly checking them all throught the day and evening. They simply had to go. I deleted them all and so far ive been able to stay off them. Try and spend the time on positive things, read, do a sport or call a friend. I find this helps

 

Just delete tinder you will be better for it I’m challenging myself to stay away from dating apps and just put myself out there to be more social plus I notice once I deleted the app I’m not putting every beautiful woman I see on the pedestal nor do I want to judge someone solely off there looks neither do I want to be held to that standard it’s very superficial I think it never goes anywhere it’s an ego boost for most people I believe.Just get rid off it and focus on things that bring value and make you feel better about yourself

 

I have experience on this. I found tinder almost as troublesome as porn because it makes you feel unmotivated to socialize and try to know a girl because you know that you have a tool that makes the aproach easier and the rejection will be less hard. By the time has passed i have realized that i was with low self steem because many hot girls who did not matched with me and the few ones who matched barely chatted. Also the dates that I had lead to empty sex or just expectations about a girlfriend which did not happen. It is hard because without tinder i have dimminished drastically my dates but it is better trying to be a social guy and get through the struggle than being in zone confort.

 

Tinder is worse than fb and insta
It is demeaning to both genders

 

Trust me i can relateI’m struggling with the comfort zone issue and being more social but at least I’m trying to do something different and there are times I’ve surprised myself in social situations it’s all about practice and letting go of outcomes and realizing that this is a learning process and to enjoy the journey. I felt like apps like tinder for me are acts out of desperation and always seeking to find that right person instead of working on myself and enjoying the present moment and challenging myself

 

It is tbh I’m a pretty fit guy and used a shirtless picture of me at the beach mind you I had other pictures and a witty/funny bio line but I would be lying to myself to think that these women didn’t swipe me because they saw muscles. Plus I’ve asked some matches why they swiped right and they said oh I just saw that pic and there have been women who have wanted to swap pics to judge on whether they are interested or not.I would just swipe women if they look good so I’m not any better so I just saw how toxic it is so I got rid of it. I think it’s more about validation and wanting to be desired but for people who have successfully found relationships on there I’m happy for them but for me it was just another p substitute

 

Yeah in the beginning i used to help me to be less shy and till some point it worked. But then things were getting out of control like being ignored and something like 0.1 dates per matches and then started this level of self validation. Anyway if are managing the comfort zone with socializing congratulations because i am dealing with it in the hard way (no girls and super anxiety to aproach).

 

I have no gf didn’t have any dates or approached women all that much but I have gotten more knowledge of self which is infinitely more valuable I think the first key to solving any problem is awareness I get frustrated sometimes but being pmo free for almost a yr a feel a lot better about myself and if I continue on this path I believe I will attract the right women in my life

 

After 3 weeks of dating apps, i said never again. Man that stuff is just awful. Stay away from it and stop putting women on pedestals just cause they are beautiful

 

Thing is not just putting beautiful women on pedestals but ranking people in general based on their beauty is the major problem. God knows how much i had put people above me for their astonishing beauty and mocked the ones who i found less attractive than me.

 

Tinder in my city sucks. All the decent-looking women end up having super-fake pictures or are just mean in person. Negative Tinder experiences actually encouraged me to be more outgoing at the supermarket, oddly enough the only place where I talk to normal women.

 

Agreed Baronbaik. The women that I met on that site are usually separated women with kids who are picky when you live 10 miles away, if you have a good job while we have to make concessions and prove our worth. Ironically that Tinder is similar to PMO where you waste a lot of time and energy. It is better to meet them in the supermarket and other public places as well.

 

Same here. I'm no catch by any standards, but I've met too many single moms or women who are too difficult to have a conversation with, either because they have unreasonable expectations or lack the social skills. I don't blame the people themselves. Tinder/Bumble/etc just encourages that behavior.

Women in public places are way cooler.

 

Well none of us should say we are no catch. We should always recognize our self worth not by women standards but our own. And I believe it is that self worth that attracts women towards us. Funniest thing happened to me on Tinder last year. A woman who was not attractive whatsoever physically and personality wise thought I was not good enough for her because I did not make enough money for a living. And I felt like saying " And this is why you will be single for a long time and waste time on Tinder. Anyhow, keep meeting these woman in public places and congratulations of staying away from PMO

 

Thanks for reminding me of this we do need to give ourselves worth because depending on others to is a losing battle I’m just figuring out how to balance confidence with humility more often than not I tone myself down to make others comfortable or out of fear of others not accepting me but this is getting better I’m learning that these things are out of my control and are a waste of mental energy even though it may give me anxiety sometimes it’s better just to be yourself unapologetically it is better to be liked or disliked than just to be in the middle and not being acknowledged I want everything to be nice and smooth no conflict or tension but that’s no way to live you gotta rock the boat sometimes and remind yourself you can handle what ever life throws at you

 

Everything that you have said here is true and because of this you are definitely going to find quality women. Hitto it was good talking to you here and I'll be following your future post. You take care and see you again soon. Promise.