Nofap and girlfriend

Hey guy. I guess I can relate to your story. I was addict to PMO for almost ten years and the first time I tried to have sex I couldn't get it up, three years ago.

And then a few weeks ago I met my current girlfriend. We tried to have sex only once (so it was the second time of my life) and again I couldn't get it up... Even though I was already 100+ days into the Nofap challenge, and I mean hard mode (no porn, no masturbation, no edge, no fantasies, nothing).

You're going to say : "This is depressing as hell ! You're telling me you didn't cure your PIED with more than 100 days of hard mode!"

And this is kinda true, it's a bit depressing. But keep in mind that it could also be related to stress, I was a bit stressed I think when we tried to do it. And keep in mind that, there are a lot of ways to get pleasure from a girl and please her even if you can't get hard. Life is not a porn movie, we are hopefully not stuck into the "blowjob-doggystyle-blowjob again-the end" scenario.

 

I don't know about ED but as far as reboot is concerned, I have found that having a sex partner is really helpful. The reason being that while you are rebooting you are fighting two things, 1) your PMO addiction and 2) your body's natural urge to have sexual release. Together these can make it seemingly impossible to abstain from PMO for more than a couple of days.

With a sex partner your brain is activated differently than with porn, this is why sex with a partner is fine during reboot. Additionally, depending on how long you have been with your gf, you may feel that you can confide in her some really personal stuff, like your PMO addiction and nofap, and she may even offer to help you.

You can find an accountability partner on this forum but I find it more comfortable to have my wife fill that roll because we love each other, I can reach her any time, and who can you rely on if not your spouse right?

I hope this helps.

 

Where did you get the idea that 2/3 weeks would be enough? lol. You will need to abstain from PMO for several months to be free of ED! 250 Testosterone is quite low. I would advise you get some hormone replacement therapy.

 

I would advise putting off sex. Having sex after 2-3 weeks of being together sounds too soon to me anyway. If you really like this girl, take the time to discover who she really is and take things slow before jumping straight into the bedroom. This will also give you more time to abstain from PMO.

People treat sex as if it's a requirement in any relationship. It's not. Sex should be had given you both consent and both feel comfortable with the situation. If you are not feeling comfortable due to your ED then don't have sex!

Also, 3 weeks is not enough time to recover from PIED. Three months is recommended. However the length of time it actually takes is dependent on your age, how old you were when you started viewing pornography, how long you have viewed it for, and the severity of your addiction (ie the types of porn you watch and how often you watch it).