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Hello comrade, you're not the only one struggling these specific problems, I really can relate to this and it's quite common.

You have always tell yourself that all you have to do is KEEPING YOUR HANDS AWAY.Not so hard right?Just let them where they are and focus on other things.

I REALLY recommend to pick some major motivation.Write down your goals and write down why you've started NoFap in the first place.Think only about the day.Think about here and know.

If you struggle with urges, visit the forum or do a cold shower.

 

Man. Everything you said is exactly how I feel as well. I'm sorry bro. Man I wish I could tell you how to fix this But I'm dealing with the same. I just hope this place can help us up. The only difference in my case is that I have managed to quit watching videos.. But the masturbating part it dosent go away I still watching sexy pics and crap like that Basically I have been lowing down that crap in a way. And I started by stop watching super hard core porn and going softer and softer. And I feel a little better. But I WANT TO STOP MASTURBATING!!! I can't believe it's been this many years. I'm 30 now . And like you .. One time years ego I managed to go for 30 days. No idea how I did it!? But now go for 3 days feels almost impossible.. Bro. I also need alot of help What can I say .

 

You may not be able to stop right now, but you can make progress. You mentioned that you struggle with lust; try to work on that. If you go to a book store, don't look at the magazines. If you've been around your city for a significant amount of time, you know where the billboards are; don't look at them. If you're watching sports and a cheerleader comes on the screen, look away. Controlling your gaze is difficult, but you must hate lust in order to succeed. You can succeed.

Once you're able to control your gaze, you can work on accomplishing other facets of your addiction, but for now, just work on cleaning up the things you look at.

 

For what I can see so far. I'm impressed with this place. We might have found a very useful tool. I'm planning to give everything I got again. And I hope some day all this is in the past for you,me and all of us. I know Is going to be real hard But I know Is going to be awesome if one day I can say. : I don't masturbate or use porn any more. And it's been years I'm clean. It have to happen man. I just can't accep I'm going to do this garbage forever. I just can't believe that.

 

You will find in this place, you are the norm. We all struggle in similar ways. Read the success stories as there are guys just like you that have won against this.

 

Look, my friend. Whats done is done and cannot be undone. However what you can change is what has not happened yet. Go 5 years into the future and you might wish if you'd stopped when you were 30, life might have been different. You can make change in the past of your future today.

The fact that you are here, speaks volumes about because it reflects you want to change your life. Thats a very good sign! Read the starting now guide and take all the tips n tricks provided in it. Keep reading the success stories and take one step at a time. You will improve your life and I have faith in you.

Congratulations for being here and all the best for your journey.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!