Will no PMO help my performance anxiety?

I will say that in my experience having relations with with the wife during reboot can have a rebound effect, making me want more pleasure as I'm used too with P. So I would suggest lots of intimacy without sex for a bit, but it's your show. DO what works for you.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

The usual reboot process that most people do and recommend is so called Hard Mode. That means no porn, no masturbation and no intentional orgasm (even when having sex). Sex itself is fine tho. In fact it can be beneficial for getting your brain to heal right cos you are conditioning it to get aroused by proper things like real people and not pixels. Yes, porn can create erection problems, delayed ejaculation and premature ejaculation. If you have any of those things and they are due to porn then rebooting will get rid of them.

Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

 

Hey man, I think that doing anything with an actual women is great and nofap should be more for keeping away from self masturbation. I have read many articles saying that the reason to quit masturbating is to have better IRL sexual experiences. I have also read in these articles that during the “reboot” you should definitely get it on with a women if you’re able too.

If you feel bad about orgasming, then just pleasure your wife for now. It will drive her crazy (in a good way) and help you both feel more attached. I am new to having an account on nofap, but I have been practicing no porn/masturbating for a few months now (it has changed my life). I can say that it has gotten rid of my former performance anxiety and has helped me appreciate women much more.