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  1. Hey, guys. New member here. A little about myself. I'm 27 and have had this problem with PMO for over half my life. It wasn't until recent years that it got more extreme. When I was a kid I abstained from sex because I was afraid and wanted to be with the right woman. Well as you all know, being a kid going through puberty can drive your hormones through the roof. So when I'd get aroused what did I do? PMO. It became natural for me and it's not natural to be like that.
    I've struggled with relationships. Not a virgin but don't have a healthy sex life. Or healthy relationships for that matter. I dug into research and found out I have PIED. My goals are simple but not easily achieved. To never look at porn or masturbate again. I want to have more self-confidence, motivation, energy, no social anxiety, deeper voice (heard that's a thing) and of course, be more attractive to women and have better relationships. There's more but overall just want to become a better version of myself that doesn't need fantasy to feel happy. Looking forward to this journey.
     
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    This is a great place to start. I'm sure others will answer too.
    First watch this:
    Watch "Your Brain on Porn: How Internet porn affects the brain" on YouTube

    This helped me understand what I was up against.
    The other guys will give you more. It's time to hit the sack!
     
  3. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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