I'm a newbie

Hi jenniferbtheberge. Welcome to nofap. It looks like you are female which means navigating the nofap forum for help might be a little different. You can probably see that there are women's reboot logs and women's journal sections. The main sections have a lot more guys talking so it could make it tricky to find recovery there. Its a little different from, say, an alcohol addiction. With alcohol addiction its alot more in common between genders but with sex addiction there are alot more differences and hearing about a guy's sex addiction might trigger you or a guy hearing about your sex addiction might want to act out with you or something. If you really step back from it there are more similiarities than differences but its not so easy (for me at least) to always step back from. Sometimes I feel bad because it seems females will have a little harder of a time finding recovery from this addiction. But there are also all-womens 12 step phone meetings for sex addiction if you check the SA, SAA and SLAA meeting lists. Seeing a therapist is probably a good idea too. I started counseling like 2 wks ago. I hope you can find a way to stay clean that works for you.

 

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

 

Welcome. Glad to have you here. HERE are some things helping me.

 

Welcome here!. Sorry to hear about your marriage. Anyway, being here is a good decision, and I also recommend you to contact the forum "Women in Reboot", I think that will help you.
I think regardless your gender, the way to proceed is quitting porn at once and stick to this Site; try to avoid any, I mean ANY triggering situation, no matter how innocent it may look, and focus on your goals. That has worked for me.

All the best