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How to suppress urge for watching porn?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Olexander, May 28, 2018.

  1. Olexander

    Olexander Fapstronaut

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    I am new here and have been trying for a long time to quit watching porn but always failed. Now I have joined NoFap thought it might help. It has been only three days since I joined but I already feel an urge to watch porn and masturbate. I don't know to cope up with it. Can anyone suggest something? Something that he/she has tried, I mean something from one's own experience not just one hears all the time like make a schedule, take exercise ets.
     
  2. Its hard man, when the urge comes, it takes a strong will power to get over it.
    I relapsed yesterday, I failed, and felt horrible and guilty after that, I was 4 days clean.

    So dont do it, or at least try not to, you wont feel any good after it.

    Yesterday before relapsing I thought, it will be quick, I will just watch some porn and after about 30 minutes I should be done.
    I wasted more than 2 hours watching, time that I could have used to clean my room which is a mess, read something interesting, talk to someone, but no, I felt horrible after doing that.

    So dude, dont do it.
     

  3. Its definitely hard. I just relapsed after a 20 day streak and it really sucks, so please do t give in. Some tips would be...one, know that they wi come. Never let your gaurd down or think you are all clear, because that sets the urges up for a sneak attack. Two, keep reminding yourself of your reasons for quitting over and over again and remember that every urge fades. And 3, realize that giving in just prolongs the healing, because as long as you keep trying youll keep coming back to thise same urges. Yoh cant escape them. Good luck, i hope this helps.
     
  4. Protagoras

    Protagoras Fapstronaut

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    The other are correct. This is not something easy to do, but worth it. HERE are some things helping me.
     
  5. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
  6. Olexander

    Olexander Fapstronaut

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    Well, thank u all for ur suggestions. I didn't give in that day but today it's my 9th day since I joined NoFap and I have a strong urge. Though for the time being I just happened to visit NoFap and suppressed my urge but still I am not sure whether I will be able to suppress it longer.
     
  7. LakeMichigan

    LakeMichigan Fapstronaut

    As you noticed coming here actually suppresses urges and that is the technique I use. But an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! The key is to not get in to that state in the first place. It will take a while to figure out why you are getting urges and tackle the root causes for them. As others suggested it is a journey and by coming here regularly you will commit to that journey and we all do it together helping each other. As the time passes it will become easier to stay the course!
     
  8. Olexander

    Olexander Fapstronaut

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    Oooops!!!! I relapsed after 9 days. But it was a good experience trying to gain control over oneself. I am going to to start new challenge today and this time, I'm pretty sure, I shall be able to resist even longer.
     
  9. Sad_but_true

    Sad_but_true Fapstronaut

    @Olexander if you really want to quit your pmo problem you have to be willing to listen and take any and all suggestions. I have tried to quit many times before NoFap and just could not do it, the urges temptations of stimulus everywhere would bring me back to the same old place. I began by getting rid of any porn videos and links and clips and just avoiding the computer completely unless absolutely necessary for something like work. I had to keep myself busy so I didnt have time to think about sexual things. I would clean the house, take on projects I had been procrastinating on, do yard work wash my car. Whatever it took to get me from sitting around thinking about that crap. Its not easy at first, but it will get easier as you accumulate some time away from masturbation. If you need to throw yourself in a cold shower or ice off your sack then do it!!! But don't look for easy fix here because there is none. Look around here there are a lot of people with similiar problems and the only way they are improving is by getting to know themselves and others with similiar problems and suggestions of things that worked for them. You should take some time to learn what triggers your urges and then you can figure out ways to avoid them, the only way to do that is by starting a journal and writing about your thoughts and feelings and figure out whats going on with you. There will be some information in your inbox and I suggest you read it, it can help you but only if you take the time to absorb it. I wish you luck, and believe you can do this if YOU really want to.
     
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  10. Aldiri

    Aldiri New Fapstronaut

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    I feel the urge, find your triger, when i feel sad or lonely I feel it more, but I enter here and start reading posts, and Once
    I see the support of all of us it really helps, Im also trying meditation. Hope this will help
     

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