STRATEGY A.N.T.H.E.M, S.T.A.R,and urge surfing

Sure man. Praise God. Glad to be of help.

 

Day 5 sucess.
Praise God, day 5 done, on to 1 week PMo free now. Ive learn that you need to take the days one day at a time, one step at a time, one fight at a time. Also ive felt urges, but turned my mind to what God has already provided me with and to be contented with that. Keep fighting for the purity Jesus has bought for you my bros and sis, becoz those pure in heart shall see God.

 

Day 7
So far so good, no urges to pmo,but more in the direction of fmo(fantasizing),but still have not MO, need to be extra careful , my gf is getting more and more attractive, and my love for her has increased, and feelings of numbness slowly going away. I'm feeling the sensations and letting it pass.

Potential triggers, feelings of loneliness, and neglect..Need to remind myself that I'm not alone, God is with me,and there r people who care,even if it seems like no one actually does. HOPE is sometimes all you have,and need. My lack of having deep connections could be a big trigger, sometimes I feel there are people around me, but no one is really connected to me.

On to the next lvl, to make it to day 10, these 3 days will be tough, but I am going to persist.

Keep fighting . There will always be more why not pmo than why pmo.. God bless.

 

How is yr journey man?

 

Day8
So the urges have increased, not to watch P, but to fantasize about my gf and to MO. But still my reason to stop PMO and FMO is greater then the need to satisfy my temporary lusts.

Can't help feeling like a boy, I was thinking if I moved out then I would feel like a man right?
That wasn't the case whn I took of to uni. I still felt like a child then. Now even more so,becoz I'm living with my mom.

Then a scripture came to my mind,which says when you were a child you thought as a child,you spoke as a child ,you acted as a child. When you become a man you left those childish ways behind.

So I started asking better questions,instead of how am I going to get out here and find my own life, I need to deal with my childish thoughts ,my childish words and childish actions.

Any ideas what are some of the common childish thoughts,words and actions are guys? Hit me back with some feedback.

 

Childish thoughts
1.thinking that life is all about me,me
a)solution:think about others too,while not neglecting yrself
2.thinking that my family and friends owe me attention and care.
a)gv yrself the attention you need,care fr yrslef. If u want to be cared for then care about someone else.
3.take take not giving anything back
a)think about how I can give back.
4.thinking someone else is responsible to clean up the mess
a)clean up after yourself.

Childish speech
a)excuses
Solution:make none,but be honest with yrself ,what is the real reason.
b)complaining
Solution:don't complain,instead find a solution,if there is none let it go.Don't be a baby.
c)talking bad behind the back
:if someone is not present no talking bad. Or even try to imply anything bad.

Childish actions
a)self occupied.
Solution be more people occupied
b)PMO/FMO
Solution give love to the people in yr life.

 

Day9
Almost pmo, becoz of insta live, I'm not ready to go on insta live or explore. Its filled with triggers,not fully rebooted. My prayer today was ,Lord change my desires,help me love you and be attracted to you,instead of these fleeting pleasures.

Just in a moment the snake comes and blinds u fr that moment. You have limited time to get out his grasps. Beware my brothers,don't let your guard down even for a second. Keep fighting

 

Day 10 relapsed
I came far, got back up,after a setback.

Learnt I'm not yet ready to use insta. And need to be extra careful when I am alone

 

Onto day one again...but not giving up,so far I relapsed twice since I started this thread.... I want to give up pmo for life. Help and motivation required ,help guys

 

Yea man, but can't feel sorry for myself.

My trigger is loneliness too. But somehow after getting a job,and just going out even with FAM ,is a good thing for me

 

I'm also trying not to count the days, I feel its like I'm counting how many days I'm depriving myself from pmo.

Instead I need to make the days count. I guess it all leads back to prayer right bro. Start with prayer ,start right.

 

Hey guys, I thought of taking it easy and slow in this fight, so i decided to stop P, in my battle against PMO first.
But i still feel guilty for using fantasies, and lustful thoughts to MO. Plus,ive been reading some traditional chinese medicine about the effects of M, like you lose your life force and energy, so imagine fapping 4x a day (which used to be my norm). Yea,you could imagine a lifeless zombie right. Thats what i feel i am sometimes. But thosse 10 days of abstaining were great,till i relapsed.

WHY did i relapse?
1.I wasnt feeling anything, no more horny feelings (flatlining),and wanted to feel something.
2.Being on distracting sites like insta and fb, you're bound to see some hot girls.

WHAT TO DO?
1.Get up, don't make excuses, no self pity..Ask for forgiveness and move on.
2.Take a break from instagram
3.Use youtube with caution and with people around.
4.When a lustful compulsion comes to mind, relax, take a deep breath, THINK of those ANCHORS in your life.\
Will this help you 20 years down the road? Speak some battle scriptures over these thoughts.
a)Like flee from youthful lust!
b)Keep your body in honor
c)i am a new creation in christ ( my desires are new)
http://ipost.christianpost.com/post/30-helpful-bible-verses-to-overcome-pornography-addiction
https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/seven-promises-to-pray-against-porn