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  1. BadWacko

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    Hello. I'm BadWacko from Croatia. I've been struggling with getting an erection with a girl for my whole life. I'm 31. I remember getting woods when I was little, let's say 12. Then a little later I started masturbating. And a little later watching porn. In the last years I realized that even porn doesn't get it for me anymore, the chick would really had to be a 10. I also remembered that when I was 14, a girl was rubbing me through my pants and I didn't get hard. I also had problems with being intimate with my girlfriends. I or she would always have to handjob me so I would get hard. Then i penetrated her. I always knew I had a problem.
    I found out about NoFap a couple of days ago and started to read articles. I found about the REBOOT which is awesome. I didn't know this existed, altough I kind of tried it on my own (I decided 4 months ago that I will not PMO anymore, but after 1 month and the FLATLINE, I thought I had to PMO again and also really couldn't resist it).
    I have a couple of good looking female friends, but because of PMO I just don't persuade them. It was like I didn't need to, altough I find them beautiful. Then I found NoFap and through reading the articles I realized that I have a huge problem. But I'm very happy and altough it almost seems like a mission impossible and I know it will be hard, I want to do a 4 month reboot challenge right away.
    I'm sorry if my English is bad, it is not my 1st language. Thanks for reading, I wish you a nice day.
     
  2. Hello and welcome to NoFap!

    Your English isn't bad at all. We're glad you're here. Good luck on the challenge!
     
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  3. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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  4. P-Free

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    Hello and welcome to NoFap, @BadWacko! You're in the right place, my friend! :) I agree with @LiquidShoes, you're English is not bad at all.

    Not being able to perform is what brought me here, too. I'm so glad it did! I can't imagine doing this on my own. You will find so much support and so many good resources here. Here are some things I found helpful:

    There are a lot of good resources here. There is the List of Resources found here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    There are also groups you can join with likeminded men.

    Three things I found extremely valuable are:
    -getting an accountability partner; that forum is here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/accountability-partners.7/

    -starting a journal and writing in it daily. You'll find that section under Reboot Logs. I would also suggest reading others' journals and other posts.

    -interact with the guys here. You will find an amazing community of supportive, motivating guys all on the same journey as you are.

    You don't have to do this alone. We're all in this together, and together we are stronger.

    Welcome to NoFap, my friend! I'm proud of you for joining and glad you're here.

    All my best,
    Jay
     
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