180+ days success motivations and tips (helpful for Muslim fapstronauts)

Aameen.. May Allah guide us all the way until his Jannatul Firdous...

May Allah keep you steadfast my brother...

 

One thing I have to remind myslef and everyone here. Don't expect that urges will go away as you move forward with nofap. Especially if you got addicted during your teenages. If you really want to protect yourself from all the filthy things out there, available for us in our gadgets- the only way is to cultivate real Taqwah. If we become successful in that, for sure we won't have to fear anything else. But real taqwah will not come by itself. We have work hard for it. We do sacrifice a lot for our dunya- our studies, our job. But if we put in 10-20% of that much effort in building Taqwah, I think we will succeed in not only Nofap, but everything else. Imagine- if we spend 10-14 hours ( may be a little too much. But I'm talking as a univeristy student) of a day for our studies, or job or things related to our professional life, why can't we spend 10% of that time for aakhirah- something that will increase our imaan- reciting or memorizing Qur'an or learning deen or engaging in tasbih or community service(reality is that it will boost our dunya also)? That's the question I'm asking myself. Why is so hard? Probably due to shayaatheen and our nafs. But we have to try harder. If our determination can surpass our hawaa'- our empty desires, then we would be successful..
I hold myself from going near to it by reasoning with myself about its harms as well as due to the enormous inspiration I get from nofap. There were many moments (especially recent weeks), I had huge urges that I almost thought I would slip. But Alhamdulillah- I could persist, only with the help of Allah. For me mostly ,they come with wet dreams and will remain for a day. Everything becomes so arousing all of a sudden. I tried to keep my guard high during those times and tried to focus on my work. But even focus became difficult as thoughts flooded my mind. I got time to sort it out properly only when I went out to masjid - such days are tough. I have to admit that I sustained those urges only by taking oaths. I hope in future, I will be able to pass such urges without doing that..
I dealt with myself harshly because I felt I needed some harsh disciplining. So far it is successful. But I know that it is not sustainable. I have to move towards a more healthy way of dealing with myself. I'm trying for that...
May Allah keep us all steadfast in the straight path... May he cure us all from all the illnesses of heart, mind and body..Aameen ya rabb al Aalameen

 

“Any three people living in a village or in the desert who do not make Athaan nor establish the prayer will be overwhelmed by Satan, so you have to establish congregational prayers, as the wolf eats only the sheep that strays from the herd." [Ahmad, An-Nasaa'i, and Abu Daawood]
That was a reminder I was badly in need of.

 

So, 6 months have passed... Alhamdulillah.. There were times I would have slipped. But Alhamdulillah thumma Alhamdulillah.. I can;t write this without tears in my eyes... Without his help I would have been in the ditch I was in before that... I'm sure nothing helped me more than holding on to the rope of Islam in my capacity. I know that I'm deeply flawed.. and that I haven't done enough and probably I never will. But I somehow could try.. And I hope I can continue to become better...
My dear Muslim brothers, ask your Lord, your Cherisher, your master- the Most Merciful, the Most Powerful... Hasten to good, to his forgiveness, to his mercy- he is nearer to you than your jugular vein, waiting for you to return to him.. Let's be hopeful in his mercy while being bashful of disobeying him with everything he gave us. Even we don't belong to ourselves. We belong to him and to him shall we return....This is more of a reminder to me than to anyone else...

 

Some of the steps that I have taken to be effective are the following:
1. Avoiding everything unnecessary- no instagram, no unnecessary facebook, no useless youtubing, no movies, no rogue searching or browsing on topics that are irrelevant.
2. Trying to be more aware of Allah and his presence and trying to get closer to him through daily ma'thooraat (the morning and evening supplications), trying to perform late night prayers, attending prayers in congregation, elongating my prayers, trying to be focused during prayers.. Frequenting the dua "Allahumma Thabbit Qalbi.." in every prostration..
3. Trying to establish a Qur'an recitation portion everyday
4. Hearing beneficial lectures everyday.
5. Busying myself with academic work
6. Wet dreams were a perk.. but I don't feel turned on nowadays as I used to.. So it's getting better. But I've found the most effective way is to just take a cold shower as soon as possible.
7. For sure, never fantasizing in anyway. I've stopped myself from doing so in most circumstances except for one or two slip ups.. I try to destroy or erase flashbacks by making some effort to disintegrate them inside my mind and make them non-arousing.

 

yaa akhi.. Every believer is chosen by Allah. We are all same in front of him.. But he has different plans for us.. Everyperson is tested in his own capacity. If he allows to us live by a single moment, that means he wants us to return to him.

Isn't it beautiful that that we fear our Lord, but we are the most hopeful of his rahma? We fear him the most but we rush towards his love and mercy when we make a mistake...

 

Keep going brother.. There shouldn't be anything that keeps you away from God. Run back to him everytime you slip. He is the only refuge. Please don't make resets into relapses. Move forward. Leave behind your past and take only the lessons you learned. Leave the baggage that contains everything else behind. If you have sought forgiveness sincerely then he has forgiven you. We just have to try our best- sincerely and not deceive ourselves by not doing so.