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Hey I'm Jay and I need help

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Jay7722, May 25, 2018.

  1. Jay7722

    Jay7722 Fapstronaut

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    I'm been fapping since 12 and this has litterly destoryed my whole life. I also got into other additions such as alchohol and marijuwana for many years. I see how much time I wasted and how much relationships I messed up and now I here alone trying to figure this out. Fapping almost every day till now I'm 28. I really don't know we're to go from here but I do want to change my life forever. I can't think properly, I have extream social anxiety and the guilt of wasting my life and missing out on so much. I'm here for change and here for help.
     
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  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
  3. Full ahead

    Full ahead Fapstronaut

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    Hello! Welcome here. You have taken a great decision in joining here. I am sure you will find a lot of support to help you. Your troubles are shared by many of us, so we can help each other.

    Have a great weekend
     
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  4. Yanis

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    Your words sound serious and there is a lot of hope a lot can happen in your life.
    Maybe you want to make some commitment - not to the community but to yourself.
    The community will support you.
     
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  5. Jay7722

    Jay7722 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much guys, it feels like a lonley walk but hopefully I get through this
     
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  6. P-Free

    P-Free Fapstronaut

    Hi @Jay7722 and welcome to the NoFap community! I'm glad you're here. :) There are a lot of great guys here and lots of support. Here are some things I found helpful:

    There are a lot of good resources here. There is the List of Resources found here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

    There are also groups you can join with likeminded men.

    Three things I found extremely valuable are:
    -getting an accountability partner; that forum is here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/accountability-partners.7/

    -starting a journal and writing in it daily. You'll find that section under Reboot Logs. I would also suggest reading others' journals and other posts.

    -interact with the guys here. You will find an amazing community of supportive, motivating guys all on the same journey as you are.

    You don't have to do this alone. We're all in this together, and together we are stronger.

    Welcome to NoFap, my friend! I'm proud of you for joining and glad you're here.

    All my best!

    (Another) Jay :)
     

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