Confidence & Social Anxiety

Looks only matter to some extent But its your energy vibrations that make a difference in how people behave with you. So i guess you doing good and make this as your lifestyle

 

If you are not satisfied with your look like clothes or your body thenn you should change but not aiming to be like someone else. Imagine yourself the way you would smile lookinng at the mirror and then start the change maybe buying new clothes, workout and then you will be able to feel good energy about yourself

 

I think that first you should start taking care of yourself (i.e. exercise, eating healthy, etc.), and then you should do things to build your confidence. If you're not "good looking" then be confident in other traits, then when women see you walk by being all confident they'll say, "he's hot" and stuff like that.

 

I read some advice the other day from a dating coach that said, if you don't like something about yourself change it, and if you can't change it change your attitude about it. If you consider yourself average or slightly below in terms of looks than I imagine there is something about yourself that's bothering you. I think plenty of average or even ugly guys date incredibly attractive women and I believe they do it by feeling confident with themselves as they are. I struggle with confidence around women as well so I'm not really sure what to tell you to actually fix those things but I can say that even small things like buying a new outfit, getting a haircut or losing a few pounds have helped me to feel more attractive.
I think the hardest part is accepting the things you don't like about yourself that you can't change. If you don't make it a big deal and aren't bothered by it than most girls won't be either. I have one eye that has some optic nerve damage and there is some small scarring on the inside of it from a surgery and for a good 4 years of my life I was obsessed that it was this horrible feature that was making me super ugly. When I met my first girlfriend and we had been dating a bit I asked her about it she told me that she honestly hadn't noticed until I brought it up. I don't know whether that was a lie for my sake or not but it helped me move past it and now it doesn't really bother me or change my attitude about myself.
So to recap I guess I'd say if your an average looking dude you have two choices. One do some work and become a hot dude, or two accept yourself and be the awesome average looking dude you already are but own it.

 

In terms of your looks and other attributes.

You've been dealt the cards that you have.

Now it's about how you play them.

If you don't judge others for superficial reasons, then you shouldn't base your self worth on your physical attributes either.