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I quit after I had my first sex

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by JERMAIN, May 5, 2018.

  1. JERMAIN

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    Hey FAM, I am turning 23, been on PMO since 19, I recently had sex with a girl for the first time, I can't say it was great because it didn't match my expectations but it did the job. I broke up with the girl too because of other genuine reasons

    I find myself in total control about PMO now. I do it when I want to. No more addiction compulsion. I am home alone most of the days behind a screen and for the first time I can go for hours or even sometimes the whole day without porn thoughts crossing my head.

    I also have more mental strength to shake em off if porn thoughts cross my head.

    I am looking forward to having more sex. Because apparently it is what go me out of this mess.

    That's mine. What do you think works for you?
     
  2. aditay

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    That's good bro I think when u sex without watching porn then it's easy to control ourself from porn
     
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  3. JERMAIN

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    Thats very true thanks
     
  4. I think porn never should be watched, no matter how experienced you are. Also M is a waste of energy that could be better put to use in sex, learning it and pleasing girl. When you have a lot of sex with girl then she fall in love with you easy. Also first time is pretty bad cause its like riding bycicle for first time - can't be pro from first time.
    Whatever works for you man but we here are all about no PMO to make sex healhy again. During first time its easy to have and keep erection but later it can get dificult especially if you waste energy in PMO. There is no health amount of PMO once addict it will lead to addiction again. Sooner or later.
     
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  5. MrMurk

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    I didn't noticed this sentence, until I read your post again.

    It's good that you ask other people what works for them :) It says to me that you're open minded.

    Watching porn is just not an option for me. I feel so nasty after I watched it. I won't go back to that.

    I'm also really into not masturbating. And I also want to have no ejaculations at all. I believe there is a much better way to enjoy sex. For example the Tantra way (and that's also not just about sex).

    My goal is to use this sexual energy to create things and use it for the better.

    Good luck. And thank you for letting me write my answer down.
     
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  6. JERMAIN

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    This is a very interesting and informative perspective I like it. I didn't know about tantra. Thank you too
     
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  7. JERMAIN

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    Thanks. I agree with what you say only lord knows the time I have wasted in PMO. And yeah my first time sucked.

    My idea of knowing that you quit porn is having control of compulsion to go back to it.

    But I get you if I don't take care the habit starts to creep slowly. I am a regular gym goer so I dissipate any energy I could spend in pmo.
     
  8. I hope you stop because what you don't actually realize is that your supporting one of the most vile and dangerous industries in the world. There's a lot of things so fucked up about that industry so please for the love of God (if you even believe in God), quit porn and don't support it.

    The industry is full of abuse, death, disease, greed, etc. The porn stars actually get abused by the directors, being forced to have sex with strangers along with being touched in unnatural ways. Not to mention, STD's are rampant in the industry. Hell, some porn stars even killed themselves so please don't support this billion dollar industry.

    No girl with positive energy wants a guy who watches weird, fucked up shit on the internet. It doesn't matter if you can take it in moderation or not, it'll still fuck up your perception of girls either way. So It's always best to quit no matter what.
     
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  9. JERMAIN

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    Thanks for your feedback.

    Those are some of the reasons, but they are not top of the list for me. I just wanna be a normal person free from PMO.
     

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