Girls are sooo tempting!!!!

Tell me about it, challenge yourself to look at their eyes before anything else eyes on the prize brother

 

I like your honesty. You really struggle huh? Well I do too. But not because something external caught me like you. I do this too tempting and reading your post maybe am more cautious...I always played and loved to get guys on the hook. I want to change these things. But for sure not possible overnight.

 

I have the opposite problem. I go to a big college and interact with girls and am trying to find a girlfriend but have struggled to connect with anyone. I have undergone a successful reboot and don't objectify women but I am not overwhelmed or tempted by anyone. Maybe my standards are too high but I'm not just worried about looks. I'd be lying if I said physical attraction wasn't important but I have yet to find anyone I'm interested in romantically based on their appearance and personality. What am I doing wrong?

 

Trigger warbing. To let go and just go and..

 

It's good to wait and not settle if there's no real interest. I'm in a college environment too most days, and I think joining extra classes and social clubs is the way to go.

I'm pretty sure there's only a very small % of people out there that are compatible for any one person... I'm like you I think, I find many girls attractive sure, but I lose interest if there's no connection when we actually talk.

 

Everything that glitters isn't gold lol

 

Don't let it control you. You have to be aware of your thoughts and steer them somewhere else when you see those tempting things. You know deep down it's not worth it to fall to things like that.

Each one of those women is a person. They have a life, and issues, and problems, and they deal with everyday things just like everyone else. Try to look at them as people, not just as sexual objects of your fantasy. Easier said than done of course, but you have to try.

 

Can definitely relate. I guess it's just a matter of being patient and continuing to meet people. I don't want to settle but I don't want to be single either. Hopefully I will meet someone I really like soon.

 

To use these girls for fantasies?
Are you abstaining only from PMO, or sex altogether?

 

Yes

 

That person was deleted involuntarily. I believe that's always the case when it says "deleted user." If they delete their own account, I'm pretty sure it still says their username and just says "guest" under it. That's what all my old posts from my old account say.

 

I'm really struggling with this matter, i see girls this way everyday and its causing chaos in my brain. I just want to avoid watching woman like that. Hopefully with time, there will be a shift in the brain.