PLEASE,HELPPPPPPP.IT'S KILLING ME.

Welcome. Glad you are here.

Take some time to read the reboot material (available here => http://www.nofap.com/getting-started) and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it!

Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

Also, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
Something you enjoy
Something you're good at
Something important
Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Share your knowledge in a respectful way. Read, learn, apply.

Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here.

Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

I wish you a successful reboot.

 

C'mon @morphie, cheer up! You have the time factor at your favor. I would have given anything to be aware of my problem when I was your age. What you've experienced is normal for your generation, with high speed internet, you guys grew up too exposed to porn. Try not to worry too much, you have time. Look at me, 36yo, I'm just starting this journey and I feel optimistic.

Just keep calm, don't judge yourself so hard. Try to go one step at a time. Read the resources that nofap has at your disposal. Try to understand your problem and how your brain works with it. You'll be fine.

Welcome! You are in the right place

 

Quitting is definitely the right path. Watch some of the Gabe Deem videos too. Very inspiring. You said you don't have any hobbies. Figure out one or two! I'm a bit older and financially stable and like cars. I bought a beat 1978 camaro and a flogged Jeep. When I get the urge, I drop everything and go work on one of them for a few hours. Works every time. I will also start cleaning the house. That works too. Distraction is a key to bypass your triggers. Find out what they are and avoid them!

We're all in this together, but only you can walk your path. Only you can make the hard choices. You will be better for them. All the people here are supportive and really great. In fact, I haven't found a better group of people anywhere

 

Hi bro,
Am just of your age and facing the same problem. I would like you to contact me. We can share ideas etc.
Thank you!!

 

hi bro...wish i had changed myself when i was 17....now i'm 27...i started pmo at age 14.......almost went till death twice......walking dead..now recovering...but it hard........immeditaely save yourself frome vil habit...you are in teenage..dont meess up with your hormones and growth

 

Hey @morphie ,

I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome".

There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program.

Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

Learn the NoFap Program
The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

They are:

• Download the free Getting Started guide.
  
  
• Set up a PMO-Counter Badge. More info here!
  
  
• Basic introduction to the science of porn addiction!
  
  
• Basic information about rebooting and how our challenges can help you recover from PMO. This is the most important page to read. If you only can read one page, read this one.
  
  
• About NoFap.
  
  
• Watch this video - it is an epic intro resource if you want to get particular details about porn addiction and how it changes how your brain works.
  
  
• This is a good light-weight video about porn addiction.
  
  
• Read through the journal sections and see what other rebooters have experienced. It is good to know what to expect, otherwise the "chaser effect", "the surge", or the "flatline" might throw you off.
  
  
• If you come across vocabulary that you can't understand, check out our rebooting glossary of terms.
  
  
• GET ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR HABITS! Sign up for a peer accountability partner. Otherwise if you want more professional-hosted solutions, check out NoFap Premium or Reboot Camp. If you can afford to invest in yourself, these are great options.
  

You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

Get Involved with the Community
The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can:

• Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH
  
  
• Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles
  
  
• Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.
  
  
• Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
  

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.

 

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

@Chriss27
@bartbar
@mankiam33
@Freedom Fighter
@CrushPornBeneathYourFeet
@JakeO5
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!


Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

--> L

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/
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@Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/
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@ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/
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@Mr.Imperfect - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/164547/
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@Inqonyama - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/166981/
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@GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/
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@Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@Tomoya Okazaki - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@Fortitudo - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@Dragonnlife - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

--> L

PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page.

Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.

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Hey there morphie my friend
I am as desperate as you and know what it is killing me too. I have lost belief over myself and therefore need to be accountable to others. I too feel that I kinda become unconscious and my mind makes me fall back into fapping. Therefore I need to feed my mind everyday.

We can chat once everyday for keeping up the accountability if you like it.
By the way I am 22 male

Thanks

 

Hey! I can totally relate to your problem. The urges make us blind. We cannot think independently and it is like we aren’t the master of our brain but the brain is our master. I’m new here as well.I would suggest you to take up some form of physical activity, I started going to the gym and it has helped me channel my energy into something positive. You could learn an instrument, I started playing the piano and that has also helped tremendously. Just take up any activity that you think will add value to you and be persistent with it. You are bound to face difficulties when starting something but stay strong and you will pull through. Hope you find help!
Best

 

I can surely vouch for the grades part. I was until last year considered the brightest in my class but PMO ruined my brain. I have exams in 15 days and I haven’t been able to study much. Definitely stay away from anything that will make a relapse even remotely possible. Instagram and Snapchat was usually the reason for me so I deleted them. All the best boy! I hope you do well!

 

True man pmo does ruins your brain and destroys your academic life.