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30 day challenge

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. I made it to day 30, now I have to decide, am I going to do another 30 day challenge?
     
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  2. Painlich

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    Why not?
    You can do it! Or do you want to throw all away? It is not worth it!
     
  3. Congratulations reaching 30 days! :D Wonderful!

    It's been encouraging reading your posts.

    Looking forward to your next challenge if you're going for it. In any case, as one hymn starts:

    Yield not to temptation,
    For yielding is sin;
    Each vict’ry will help you,
    Some other to win;
    Fight valiantly onward,
    Evil passions subdue;
    Look ever to Jesus,
    He will carry you through.
     
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  4. wisdomkaulen

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    I say suggest we´re going for it together^^
     
  5. andiwahyudi

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    good
     
  6. wisdomkaulen

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    Day 28 - It´s 5:44 AM here. Gonna do my breathing, showering, meditating! Two days ahead, let´s do this!
     
  7. OK, another 30 day challenge ahead!
    I have to confess something to you brothers. So, I reached my 30 day goal yesterday, and I decided to do something stupid. I spent an hour or so looking at porn, because I wanted to see if it was the same as looking at it a month ago. I would NOT recommend this to anyone. But I did discover that it had become less attractive to me now, and I did not act out and masturbate like I would have a month ago! Thank God!!!
    So, I am starting another 30 day challenge again and resetting the counter to day 1, because I did look at porn yesterday, but at the same time I am rejoicing because I didn't take it any further.
    For the next 30 days, no PMO!
    I have to be honest that I have been hopeful all along that my wife and I would start making love again, but she just informed me this evening, that she is no longer interested at all anymore, so definitely will be a "challenge" knowing that my sex life with my wife is over for the unforseeable future. Man, this is going to be tough. I will have to just double up on the Spiritual Armor, and be prepared for some serious battle with the world, the flesh and the devil!
    I will keep posting here daily, and also devote myself to prayer, meeting with local church guys, working out and training for physical stamina and strength, maybe even doing some fasting. But I tell you this: I will not tempt myself again by viewing porn, because I almost went all the way! But thanks be to the Lord Jesus Christ, that he saved me from the abyss!!!
     
  8. wisdomkaulen

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    I´m pleased to hear that you´re going for it again Fanchman! :)
     
  9. OK, so last night was bad. A combination of things happened. First, I decided to take my wife out for dinner, and was hoping that would "soften" her somewhat towards me. We did in fact have a nice time eating out, or at least so I thought! On the way home I told her that she is still the woman of my dreams, and that I desire her in a sexual way, even after all these years (27 years now, we are 47 and 46). Well, she didn't like that at all, and actually had a fit over my comments, because she claims she doesn't have the time or the interest in a sexual relationship with me anymore. That really set me off of course, even though I did stay calm through the conversation, but last night I couldn't sleep because I was so upset about her reaction, and about 2am I stormed out of the bedroom, went to the office, and PMO'd! I am sorry that I did this, and I didn't want to "let God down" or any "fapstronauts" either, but the stress was overwhelming, and I had just viewed porn the night before, so I couldn't resist!
    So, I am confessing to my brothers here, and hope this will not cause anyone else to stumble. I spent the day, working, hiking, swimming and some prayer time, and am now ready to start the next 30 day challenge. Today is day one, unfortunately the wife and I are not doing well again, but this seems to be the norm. My goal is to get back on track, stay "clean" for another 30 days, and hopefully find a way to be nice to her, regardless of no sexual relationship! I am truly sorry if I let anyone down here, but today I found a new resolve, and will be posting daily for the next 30 days. I hope some of you will join me!
    I am just grateful that we have a merciful God. I know He will forgive me for this, and I want to bless Him for the next 30 days(, and beyond). It will be hard, there will be suffering and anguish, and there will be lots of temptation.(I am experiencing the temptation as we speak, actually). But my resolve is solid.
     
  10. Painlich

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    I am sorry to hear that. I pray that your relationship may recover.
    God is with you! Seek his presence and his strength will come to you.
    Many times I came humbly to him and he always lifted me up and I felt his peace. My perspective changed somehow and I had new hope despite the circumstances were the same.
    But it depends on you. You have to decide for it. I really belive you can do it!
    God is with you!
     
  11. alansthebest

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    Dang brother ! , you fell for the devils " look but dont touch " game . hes been trying to get me to look too nd not touch , but look what happens , our minds get polluted yet again . its SO hard brother im in a similar situation , my gf is no longer sexually attractive to me no more , so im like , woah what do i do now? am i never going to have sex again?? im 28 years old ! but i guess only time will till brother , but we cannot fall for satans " look but dont touch" scheme , ive done it . it leaves us horny and confused , its so hard brother , let Jesus be with us all !
     
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  12. wisdomkaulen

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    My Brother, I will support your new challenge! May God forgive you your sins. Tonight, I´m going to pray for you!
     
  13. You have no idea how much your posts meant to me this evening!
    It's day 2 today, and I'm still reeling from the setback, but still determined to press on!
    The hardest part is the relationship with my wife, I don't know how to handle it. But I will seek God's voice and hope that He will give me guidance!
    I have seen debates on the other forums concerning soft reboots vs hard reboots, and I am really confused on the matter. Mutual orgasm is the primary way I've ever connected with my spouse! If I do a hard reboot, it will affect our relationship for sure, but honestly, I don't know whether for worse or for better!
     
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  14. alansthebest

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    sometimes we tend to ony listen to god when we want to and i am guilty of this. im going through the same issue, im no longer attracted to my gf of 5 years , there no sex no more , and i dont even want to with her bc of all the P i ave watched in my life , i had too high expectations foe my woman and now its nothing , i dont know how im going to pull through this one too but like you said, god will guide ...
     
  15. Yes, God will guide, and sometimes His voice is faint to our ears, but I truly think that is because we are not always listening very well.
    A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels
    Proverbs 1:5
    Day 3 for me on my second "30 day challenge". I am doing better since the weekend when I had a "meltdown" of sorts. It's amazing when you start distancing yourself from porn, and you realize what a strong grip it can have, literally a bottomless pit, that's what it is! I hate it!
     
  16. alansthebest

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    HA , bottomless indeed, you said it
     
  17. Day 4, there has been some progress in the marital relationship, but it's very fragile. Tomorrow is our marriage anniversary, and I gave her a gift last night that she actually liked, which is kind of special, because I usually suck at giving gifts! For us, sex has always been the area that clicks for us, but I have failed in most other areas of our marriage. So, as I haven't filled her needs as a wife, she has lost interest in me over the years. I don't blame her for this, but I am a porn addict, and messed up, so I did withdraw from her, just like I've withdrawn from people in general when I sensed rejection etc. It's how I learned to cope, with PMO! But, it is now time to bid farewell to this demonic plague called PMO, lust, sexual fornication, whatever you want to call it! No more!
     
  18. how was your proress. hope you accomplished your mission. i am also on way to thirty day challenge. love from india
     
  19. very good sir that you had such a nice control on the mind . i am sure you will win in the last.
     
  20. fanch
    fanchman it happens . dont worry .
     

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