Open honesty and hurt

I do understand the point you were trying to make, and I apologize for sidetracking the conversation... there are going to be things your wife doesn’t want to hear, but in order for you to heal, I think you do need to be honest with her about your feelings. The point I was trying ineloquently to raise is that you also have to be honest with yourself. Just as an example, why did you feel the urge to visit prostitutes?