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Is it possible to eliminate all effect of sex stimuli on daily life while going on a streak

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Bran Cao, Jan 9, 2018.

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  1. Bran Cao

    Bran Cao Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone.
    I would like to ask a question of problem I encountered in my past streaks.
    In daily life, we all get a lot of sex stimuli whatever it comes from ads or videos or photograph of social media. Receiving those things will makes you in light lust.
    When it accumulating during your streak going on, it will propel you into releasing the urge. How did you guys cope with that? Especially for those able to finish long streak without any MO.
    Please help me! Many thanks!
     
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  2. You just gotta remind yourself this: "If i go and relapse right now, it will make me feel bad." "Why jack off to a woman that i will most likely never be with in real life." You just gotta remind yourself that your brain needs healing, so you can be able to have a healthy relationship with a real girl in the future.
     
  3. My longest streak was 43 days.
    The thing about the external stimuli is, they should be taken as they are. If u see a sexy ad, that wasn't so that you'd go up to your room to *help yourself* it was merely to catch your attention. If it caught your attention, and you are now aware of this fact, the you are in a better position to process it properly, and see it for what it is, a marketing tactic to appeal to your baser instincts. If the model seems awfully beautiful, then admit this fact to yourself, and move on. That last part is key, the urges only accumulate when we try to "ignore", them, by doing so we are still letting them linger longer than they deserve our attention. Let the thought come, see it for what it is, and then let it leave as well. None of us tend to be strong enough to ALWAYS be in control of our thoughts, but I believe God Has made us all strong enough to exercise a good deal of control over our actions, and over which thoughts we choose to empower by giving them importance and our mental energies.

    For movies, music etc. Either it is blatantly sexual and borderline pornographic, or it serves an actual purpose other than to incite lust. In case of the former you can avoid it, turn on restricted mode on youtube, prefer to buy or watch the censored versions of risque movies. In case of the latter, yes it probably makes you feel aroused, but it shouldn't be all you absorb from it, does it tell you something about the character? Why is sexuality important for it to be a part of the narrative? Does it make them more human? Do they use their own temptations in order to hide away deeper issues that they face?
    Basically why and how does the sexual content fit into the story and what does it stand to say or establish between the characters. This approach, imho, makes shows both watchable, and such sexual content easier to deal with.

    Ultimately, what we should remember is that we ARE sexual beings, but our urges should remain in our control, when we view this sort of stuff, we are bound to feel aroused, but being aroused really is no excuse to go and spank the monkey.
    Art should be appreciated for what it's worth, and not through just one perspective or another.
    I hope this helps somewhat. :D
     
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  4. You accept what you can control and let go of what you cannot control. You take responsibility for what you can control and work towards strengthening your resolve. You acknowledge that at the end of the day you choose how these things impact you. You are the one, with your thoughts, who gives these things too much power and influence over your life. At the end of the day lust is a choice. Nothing makes us do it so the sooner we reclaim responsibility for our actions the better.
     
  5. Bran Cao

    Bran Cao Fapstronaut

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    Thank you my friend. I knew your words of self-alert do carry some power. But I mean that when the stimulation you received and accumulated during days, it will forge a strong urge in your heart in a certain period. I want to knew that how to deal with it. I think simple words may not be a cure of it as I have tried. Whether I should just masturbate it out without porn watching? Or just stay carry on for days and this urge will diffuse naturally?
     
  6. It'll probably just weaken naturally, over time
     
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  7. Bran Cao

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    Thanks my friend! Your kind words had enlightened my a lot. As I understands, especially second paragraph, You mean to actively distract ourselves to focus on other aspect rather than focus our mental energy into sexual contents?
     
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  8. Yes, in a nutshell, there is so much more to life and to living than just sexuality, it IS a part of us, but it isn't and should not be considered the whole of us. Everything has its place, and imho, this recovery is about putting that simple philosophy back into perspective, so that we can walk away from our perversions.
     
  9. SnowWhite

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    No it is not possible to eliminate external stimuli and that's exactly the challenge of any streak.
    The idea is to develop inner strength so that you stay on yourself and become immune against outside stimuli affecting the path of your life.
     
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