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30-day report, INCREDIBLE change!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Playara30, Oct 3, 2014.

  1. Playara30

    Playara30 New Fapstronaut

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    Hey All!

    New here, so a brief background (sorry for the TL;DR): 27yo married male, struggled with PIED via PMO since teen years. Exposed to internet porn at a relatively young age; nothing special there, but over time I ran way with it to the point of routine...at least once a day, nearly everyday, sometimes 3-4 in a day over 15+ years. Had a few serious relationships growing up prior to meeting my wife; desire and drive were there, but when it came to performance, there was barely anything there. I would find myself fantasizing about porn mid-act just to maintain, and over time, even that would not suffice. Sensitivity was null, and the inability (at the time) to reconcile the physical challenges with sexual desire eventually led to moderate performance/sexual anxiety--to the point of a year of mental health therapy with an MFT.

    My wife and I met in college, and we hit it off immediately. The relationship has always been strong: amazing love, friendship, and communication. I initially was scared to share my struggles early in the relationship, but eventually it started causing problems in our intimacy and revealed everything to her regarding the PMO. She has been incredibly supportive, but I would be completely ignorant to not acknowledge that there have been many instances of frustration for both of us. Recently, we have been trying to get pregnant and there was tremendous fear on my part on being able to perform. After a couple of failed or heavily MO'd attempts, that fear was seemingly about to be realized. It was then that I discovered NoFap, and made a commitment to 30 days...what did I have to lose, right? I employed regular exercise at the gym, a better, cleaner diet, and a multivitamin/panax ginseng regimen.

    Well, made it to 30 days, and HOLY SH**. I really can't describe it other than having gone from PIED to borderline PE! I had easily some of the best, effortless sex of my life; the wife was, suffice to say, incredibly amazed and happy :). Sensation, power, endurance, it was all there. Moreover, I was completely relaxed and in the moment; no trace of anxiety. It's been such a huge eye-opener; for the first time in a long time, I feel like a man, and master of my body and mind.
     
    Last edited: Oct 3, 2014
  2. nofapforthenewme

    nofapforthenewme New Fapstronaut

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    Awesome. thanks for sharing your story are real inspiration
     
  3. Playara30

    Playara30 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you so much, greatly appreciated! Good luck with your reset; you can do it! :)
     
  4. Man of Honor

    Man of Honor Fapstronaut

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    Keep up the great work. It's amazing how well the body responds to natural sex as opposed to fake fantasies.
     
  5. Keep going and beware of 30 days trap. I have read some stories about it and I have gone through it. You see yourself as an successful human now and this is sometimes connected with careless, if you know what I mean. Just do the same work as you did until this day and stay focused. :) Great job anyway. ;)
     
    Last edited: Oct 4, 2014
  6. Playara30

    Playara30 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you!
     
  7. Playara30

    Playara30 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks again! I absolutely know what you mean, and my wife and even discussed that very notion (in so many words). In addition to having that sense of renewal, I think the major thing for me is understanding the nature of what it took to get here, and that sense of commitment is driving a long-term goal of lifestyle change, as opposed to being content with "results-oriented" success and relapsing, chaser effect, etc.
     
  8. VanillaMochi

    VanillaMochi Fapstronaut

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    Great post. Really inspiring. Especially the last line.

    Thank you for posting.
     
  9. bmw4real

    bmw4real Fapstronaut

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    Great Bro. Thanks for sharing your experience with nofap. I am all pumped up to go for another 47 days :D
     
  10. wotawanka

    wotawanka Fapstronaut

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    I loved reading that, especially the last line and I feel like a judge in the X Factor now and want to say "Now that's how you write a success story, you're through to the next round". Cue heart warming music etc.........

    Seriously, I'm so happy for you and it was inspiring.
     
  11. fightback

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    A final showdown is on the horizon in my future. i feel it in the distance...but i shall prevail. I shall have the victory...I will be free
     
  12. Rastislav

    Rastislav New Fapstronaut

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    Definitely some good stuff. I'm trying out the NoFap challenge myself after having become more or less addicted. Thank you for providing an inspiring (possible) precursor to my own well being!
     
  13. kalakonu

    kalakonu New Fapstronaut

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    Just would like to say how much how awesome the support and community here looks. I am so excited to start this challenge.Heres one of my favorite quotes "You're getting better, you're getting better." -Jim Rohn
     
    Last edited: Oct 7, 2014
  14. Gilbert

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    Incredible dude well done and never give in to the temptations! Great that you have such a strong, committed relationship with you wife!
     
  15. who

    who Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations! Good work, and keep it going.
     
    Last edited: Oct 15, 2014
  16. anthrope

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    This is really inspiring Playara30! I'd love to hear your tips on how you reached day 30. What really kept you going?

    Right now I am at day 1 of my nofap, but I know how great day 30 feels, and I congratulate on this! Keep going; it gets better - I have gone a year without, and most of my fitness was accomplished during that time; I have gone 7 months without, and I completed my PhD thesis and got a job in that time. I know dropping PMO is a complete gain. The little dopamine rush of PMO is not worth the price we've all paid for it, but then you know what I'm talking about.

    Great work! Keep going and keep inspiring!
     

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