I don't think NoFap is the answer.

I think I agree with you. I ever thought this "90 days and I'll be completely rebooted" mentality is pure bullshit and Nofap is not the answer to everything.

I still strongly believe that stopping PMO forever is the best solution to get rid of PIED, no sensations because of death grip, no morning woods... It's working for me at least

But stopping touching yourself and watching P won't make you tall, beautiful, in shape, intelligent and rich. If there's something wrong in my life, I have to fix it anyway. Stopping PMO is one thing. It doesn't improve everything else in your life if you do nothing

 

A wise man once said "NoFap isn't the thing, it's the thing that gets you to do the thing."

 

Your right dude. Its a habit. Its a symptom but not the problem. I'm glad you see that. when people believe oh when I get to this day this will happen but the truth is, you do it. You make yourself better you complete your goals. NoFap just gives you more energy, time and less desensitization. So the rest is up to you. Congratz on giving her a compliment. And remember whatever was your thing in porn isn't you don't think of porn as what you like but rather what shocks your mind. So just because you liked it in porn doesn't mean that is what you'll like in real life.

I know everyone is like hard mode all the way. But I see it as as long as you try not to M more than 3-4 times a week your fine. I try not to for now but eh. And having sex it makes new pathways that are with a real person. Porn just desensitizes you thats it so I think your goal should just be to focus on building yourself up making your skills better and hell try and get a girlfriend falls the best time in my opinion.
Just focus on building the new and not fighting the old. I hope you get a great relationship good luck dude.

 

Hi. I think that the greatest benefit NoFap gives you is the opening up of doors. As for me, I'm beginning to deal with my problems rather than avoiding them. It was as if someone had splashed me with cold water and said Wake Up! It's time to take action! During this past month I built up the courage to touch certain topics that I was too shy to touch in the past. I think it makes you gradually realize that you've been missing out on so many things in life. So yeah, it's not about numbers and counting days but it's about commitment, life style change.

 

And there are days (hard ones) when you ask yourself when all these withdrawals and frustrations will end. So reading the positive things you've written and taking a look at your progress is always helpful. Like a reminder that says You've made this far, you make it further.