Hello everyone

You DO have a clue what to do...because you have finally arrived here, the beginning of the turnaround. What you describe, the self disgust, the fear, the lack of self-actualization...those are SO SO SO common. Mr. amc, I started fapping at 13, and I'm 36. I can relate to so many of your feelings. I'm gonna tell you something, man. It's all interconnected, the lack of self control, the endless orgasms, the dopamine system in your brain, the fear of never being a real man. It's all connected and gaining control over fapping really IS the beginning of the turnaround. Being exposed to ideas and voices of upstanding and self-actualized men like Joe Rogan and esp Jordan Peterson has been crucial to my slow building of my authentic rebuilding of my sense of self as a man. You are NOT alone at all in this. I'm telling you, fapping is connected to ALL those feelings and situations you're feeling overwhelmed by. You are here now, in the right place. Follow the directions, give yourself respect for your courage, and begin, and stay connected to this community.

 

Thank you for this. I needed that.

 

@amc - Stick with the posters above, they are all winners.

 

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

Thanks for chiming in, everyone. Can I also add for our friend amc here a personal observation?

My projection of my own future, my projections of my life and the opportunities, relationships, adventures, victories, conversations, interactions are all skewed based on whatever MOOD or STATE I'm in. When I'm in a positive mood, I think very realistically about life, like "hey, I can get a girl, everything will be ok" and when I'm deflated and in a bad mood and feeling down about myself, OF COURSE my expectations of my future are going to be pessimistic and stark (as yours feel sometimes). It's deceiving because our projections of the future always appear realistic to us. They always seem rational. But I'm telling you, dude, when you're constantly "conquered" by fapping, it drags your mood, attitude, and self-worth into the pits, it literally makes you project a dire future, based on how you "feel" in the moment--and of course, over time, a crust of self doubt forms...This is natural after so many years of entrenched behavior. The beauty of all this is that as you demonstrate tiny acts of self control, all your projections will improve, you will begin to realize that life IS full of possibilities and not hopeless, and that you are not a disgusting gnome. You are a conqueror, you are good enough as you are, you are on the right track.

 

dude, I just found this, too. Check it out:

https://www.nofap.com/stories/reboot-reports/age-41-quit-porn/

 

Welcome, stopping PMO will be the best decision you can ever make. I promise it will make your life better. Here is a link to my journal with the plan I used to overcome porn and other addictions. I believe that it is a good starting point and my plan may give you some ideas for developing your own plan.https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/no-cross-dressing-re-boot-journal.87827/. I was addicted to porn for 28 years. Don't give up. You can't change the past but your future can be completely different.

 

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.

 

Well im 18 so im supposed to be messed up just for being a millenial. We get everything in an instant, and we are used to it, we were raced surrounded by technology and because of that, porn and erotic images in media.
You are not shit, because as long as you try to change you are better than that. I have been addicted since I was 8 ( thanks to porn appearing in movie channels late at night, and me not knowing what I was looking at ). I would even say I felt traumatized the first time I saw it, but for some reason I kept watching, like a kid trying to watch a horror movie ( I thought the girl was getting hurt... but then I realized it wasn't like that)
Many people go yrough that, age is not important. Now you simply have to realize how important your time is. Use that to keep moving fordward.
We are all the same here, we are all going to improve in the end.

 

hello a m c

 

When you fall is when you deserve the most love. We will all be here to support you when you need it. Please, all you have to do is ask.

 

Good choice on coming here. Welcome. HERE are some things helping me.