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Newly married & found PIED

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by RedKingpin, Nov 22, 2017.

  1. RedKingpin

    RedKingpin Fapstronaut

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    Hi there, i would like to share a little of my story here and would seek advices. My age is 31 and i am 2 months married now with recently found ED issue. This issue was not there before unless i got access to high speed internet 2 years ago.

    Well, i fairly had a much smooth sex life and never even heard about a word call ED. I am living away from family due to study reason and always been loyal to my gfs. Oflately, i got shifted to hostel and got access to high speed net and started browsing porn and fapping to 4 times daily for last 2 years that seriously must have damaged my dopamine and libido. Please note that during this 2 years, i met my gf only thrice for a week and had fairly good sex and never had ED.

    After marriage 2 months ago, i found that i am unable to get harden or may be not long enough to insert. During this time, though less than before, i do fapping to satisy myself but quite upset for not having sex with my newly married wife. After reading few of your post in this website, i realised that my problem of ED is due to porns (atleast i hope that). I even tried anti ED food remedies but in vain.
    Now i am planning to reboot and this is my 3 day today. Do you guys really think if rebooting will help. If so, in max how many days should i be recovered. Is trying to have sex with my wife during this reboot time will breach the pact. Please suggest.
     
  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips whichmay help you along your journey.
     
  3. RedKingpin

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    Thanks. In general, how long does it takes to show the first sign of results. Is it 7-10 days? Btw, i am not feeling any trouble in my 3rd day. I mean i feel no withdrawal symptoms till now. Is it normal.
     
  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Everyone is so different, I can say.
     
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  5. RedKingpin

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    Thanks. Would like to listen to more views on this. I am getting paranoid tbh.
     
  6. John1964

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    Everybody is different , but generally you have to clear your brain of the visual effects from porn and focus on that loving feeling you get from your wife. Don't get discouraged beleive me it works just gonna take some time. They are so many encouraging posts on this site that will be very helpfully. Best of luck to you.
     
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  7. Protagoras

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    Welcome. Here are some things working for me.
     
  8. RedKingpin

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    Hi everyone! I have heard, talking about ED with my wife or thinking about it only makes it worse. Guess i am having performance fear or anxiety issues. How to beat this at the first place. This is my 3rd day reboot btw. Please suggest.
     
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  9. RedKingpin

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    Hi there ! I am in day 6 here. No urges till now (hopefully because i am indulging in foreplay with my wife now and then and pretty much erected in these times but no intercourse till now). I am even getting dreams of sex at night.
    You think i am going on good on track? Please suggest. Way to go.. :)
     
  10. Most people say to go 90 days with no porn or masturbation. Maybe go a month or two with no sex just to get your body through the first flatline.
     
  11. RedKingpin

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    Day 7 here. I need one clarification. In these days, i was in constant cuddling with my wife to trigger my natural depomine inceptors and finally had intercourse for couple of mins and ejaculated.
    Does this tamper my reboot as i am in day7 and counting? Does natural sex with real woman is not considered a tamper? Please suggest as i dont wanna jeopardise my progress.
     
  12. Natural sex with a real woman is good. Not considered a tamper.
     
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  13. RedKingpin

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    Hi ! 10 successful non PMO day. Going good can feel the changes inside. This is really working for me and pretty much fast than I thought. More days to continue. Will keep writing:)
     
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  14. RedKingpin

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    Hi fellas ! 16 days rebooting and going on. Regular home sex with wife but getting strong urges for masturbation, still fighting off. Looking forward for more rebooting days. :)
     
  15. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Focus on your marriage and your wife when urges of M occur.
     
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  16. RedKingpin

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    Yup thanks mate. I am confident on this. Will keep writing. Thanks for the advice.
     
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  17. RedKingpin

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    Hi all, this is my 30th non PMO day. I have noticed a peculiar thing and would like to have your view on this.
    After the first 10 days, i felt much better and found that my ED was almost recovered and i was able to do good erect intercourse with my wife. But it all lasted for next 10 days only. Post that, i again started to have ED till now on this 30th day. Please note that these 30days were completely no porn no fapping.
    I want to know why it got controlled and again back to ED. Am i doing something wrong? Is doing natural sex during rebooting is the cause? Does it happens to everyone, this ups and downs? I am depressed. Please suggest.
     
  18. From what I've heard:

    If you also have no desire, then you're in a "flat-line".

    It could be that you did it to often with your wife. Some people have reported that effect of too many orgasms.
     
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  19. RedKingpin

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    Hi folks ! There has been a change and i would like to share it.
    At the end of 30 days of rebooting, i fapped for 4 times, each for 4 days(no porn viewing) because i felt flatline(zero sexual urges during the last 26-30 days rebooting). I felt i am hampering my normal body process causing flatline and atleast no masturbation which was assumed to be a basic self sexual activity(no porn viewing).
    But things turned out to be worse now. Apart from a little tingle from foreplays with wife, i feel complete flatline while trying to do intercourse. Its been 5 days now and i feel depressed same as before.
    Is rebooting all over again may help? Please suggest.
     
  20. Physicist

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    flatlines are normal.
     
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