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Going o 4 years... when will it end....

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by maserati23, Dec 21, 2017.

  1. maserati23

    maserati23 Fapstronaut

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    Hey Guys i k havent posted in a while. Im dlowly giving up... my wife has set up filters and i havent seen a porn scene in about a month... but im really struggling with urges and i look up sexy pics on social media of porn stars... no matter how much i tell myself i wont do it again i come back to the same habit... its been 4 years that ive been trying to kick this addiction for good but i camt succeed....
     
  2. Sh123

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    Hang in there. You CAN do this.
     
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  3. Zestria

    Zestria Fapstronaut

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    Watch some inspiring or motivational youtube videos. They seem to help me. Hearing somebody say "Keep going" and "Never give up" helps. That's why the videos that come from movies are the best. You can relate to them.
     
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  4. Foster2020

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    You can succeed. Your wife loves you and you are in this together. Thats great. Focus on her. Why be a voyeur when you have a proper woman with morals?
     
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  5. maserati23

    maserati23 Fapstronaut

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    It hurts to hear that but its the truth... Porn is just so addictive and has me tied up to it... but my wife is much more important and i know i keep hurting her... its just funny alot of times i dont even feel like watching or looking... but i feel this compulsion to look... im sick of it controlling my life
     
  6. maserati23

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    That is a good idea. Any recomendations?
     
  7. maserati23

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    Thank you for your motivation... what has helped you? How long have you been dealing with this?
     
  8. You may not be watching other people having sex, but you are using p/subs. Those substitute images can also release a lot of dopamine into the brain. You don't mention masturbation. So, are you masturbating to the p/subs. As you are married, perhaps you have chosen to have sex with your wife - producing yet more surges of dopamine. It is the overstimulation of dopamine that is at the root of your addiction. Yet, you are still feeding it. You got to stop man. If necessary come off social media. Whatever it takes, you gotta do it! Please do not assume I'm unsympathetic though.
     
  9. maserati23

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    I know youre not man... its just this vicious cycle that i cant stop...
     
  10. Buddy i've been there and i know it's hell, wanting to stop, willing yourself to quit and then beating yourself up after a relapse thinking 'why didn't i just do something else' 'what's wrong with me' etc When I first tried quitting I was also contending with a drug habbit, i got to a point where i could go 3 weeks at a time without viewing porn but it felt like there was this spring inside me which kept getting tighter and tighter as the days went past and when it got really tense that's when i started to obsess. The maddening thing about it was i would obsess about NOT PMOing, pacing back and forth, trying to distract myself by watching TV but being completely disengaged with whatever show was on because my head was just thinking 'don't watch porn don't watch porn don't watch porn, don't get drugs don't get drugs' then it's like 'maybe if i just do a little bit' . 'No i can't' then before i know it i've given in, my drugs are delivered and then i'm comitted to an evening of lustful and selfish depravity like a sad, broken and lost individual.

    I got to rock bottom in the end and I was arrested because of some of the content i had progressed onto and then my world completely fell apart, but something important happened. I realised I had reached the end of the line, it was game over. I had what is called an 'internal snap' in 12 step recovery talk it's a pivotal moment when you can't mentally or physicaly go on the same way anymore and that's when i reached out for proper help with a psychiatrist and 12 step program.

    I do hope you haven't got as far down the rabbit hole as i did, but i do know what it feels like to continually disappoint yourself by failed attempts at quitting. You are lucky in that you have a partner to look out for you and make sure you are at least safe, i lived on my own and it was difficult to control.

    I've not viewed porn since Dec 2014 or taken any mind altering substances (including alcohol) since 8th March 2015. So you can do it if i can do it and I was in a real state but in my honest opinion, to beat this you gotta get support outside of NoFap too. For me, NoFap helps to keep me on track because i get to talk to other people who also want to quit, but nothing beats talking to a qualified person face to face or being in a group setting.

    If you want some inspirtational videos, i would recommend viewing anything by Les Brown, just search for him in You Tube. he's very good at delivering motivational speeches.
     
  11. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    What do you really want, to stay on the road of being addicted to pixels and then eventually becoming totally sexually impotent and dysfunctional, or would you rather heal and be the best version of yourself. The choice is yours.
     
  12. Foster2020

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    Don't say you can't stop. You really can. Its a difficult war in our minds. Personally I've figured out I dont need to fight HARD but fight SMARTLY. When my wife and I are having the most intimate and happy days I feel the urge less, so I'm trying to be the best man I know. After all she deserves that for staying with me. Fits of anger and finding faults always drove me to PMO. Then I dont watch TV not even the news cos I will constantly be starring at the reader who is usually a beautiful lady. I dont use facebook, instagram etc and my youtube always show football contents cos thats the only thing I watch. Find what arouses your cravings and cut them off from your life.
     
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  13. Zestria

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    I like this one. Just see the boxing as your addiction. Micky is always right. Listen to him.
     

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