79 Days

Folks,

I would just start to jot down, and rather than wait to Day 90 and share it I thought I would let you good people know now.

I am now 79 Days clear this is as you can imagine wonderful news.

What I would like to do is share my journey in rather clear and concise way, I hope i do it justice.

Background
Like with many of you I have had this issue for at least 30 years, I am now in my mid forties.

Have I used NoFap before?
Yes, I reached 90 days no PMO about 2 years ago, just before my marriage fell apart.

Have I abstained from anything else?
I am 3 years Teetotal

General Well Being

I will keep this fairly to the point

I am feeling a sense of freedom, in the bad ole days I would feel as many as you all have trapped, guilty and depressed.

I feel a sense of hope, just imagining what day 90, 120 & 150 will look like.

I practise averting ones eyes, when a lady is in sight. This actually has a positive effect, as you are slamming on the breaks of the adrenaline rush of desire to go back to your old ways.

I have failed before, and I know what its like to fail and climb back out, I would rather not have to do that again, its all very tiresome!

Having a sense of humour helps..

Your thoughts might convince you that you deserve it, you need it, there is no harm having a peek.. I would say yes they are your thoughts, but you can choose no to listen to them and the beautiful thing you develop is self awareness, self confidence, and a general happiness in not being drawn in to something that makes you feel trapped and guilty.

Many people have adopted meditation and prayer, I am no exception. If you are not spiritually minded, thats fine, I would try to encourage to find 5 mins to learn not to listen to the voice that wants you to fail.

NoFAP is not easy, it gets a bit easier when you know what its like to fail.

Like with many my complexion is brighter and my eyes have a sparkle, I am leaner than i ever have been and I like looking at my body.

Many people have had to seperate, and ultimately divorce, but I have to say that during the last 79 days I have felt, that I am more than capable of pushing through the divorce honour in tact, and not feeling the need to drink or lash out at the injustice.

Like i said so life is challenging, I am content with the way things are going, I would say that there is a general calmness

I have had the flatlines, and I feel that slowly I am coming through, I would say functionality is beginning to return.

I am less controlled by anxious thoughts, as the calmness that i often get a stronger foothold.. prayer and meditation, really helps here, failing that the Gym

I have no need to go out on the prowl join any social media dating sites, but I am content to be me. I am looking forward to hit 90 days on Christmas Day, what a present.

So summing up, my body, mind and spirit have gone under a major upgrade over the last 3 years, i am deeply effected by the separation, but I am walking. I feel very new each day... I think what I am trying to say is, that there are many that eagerly desire these super powers, I would say just keep pushing on in your challenge and it will be added to you.

Hope that helps, I shall update you on Christmas Day

Peace Love Hope and Happiness
Dumbleburt

 

@The Hero thanks very much

 

Thanks @arminhul

 

@SSGSSV77 right back at you