Going to the gym

This has proven to be difficult for me, and for many other Fapstronauts, however you must remain strong. The further you travel down this road, the more you will begin to notice the change in how you view women. But it takes time. Keep at it!

 

I think changing the way you view women has to be a proactive process. Force yourself not to look at them. Stop you mind from wandering on sexual thoughts. If you really have to look at them, look at their faces, not the other parts. If you can't help thinking about them, view them as human beings, not as sexual objects.
It is a hard process. Think of it as breaking free from your chains. You wouldn't just wait until they are rusted so you can get away, you have to hit them, cut them, so you can get rid of them.

 

Instead of going to the gym you can take up a sport like soccer. Soccer is great. Or even tennis. Both of these need lots of energy and so its a great workout. Trust me. I play soccer and all of my urges subside after i play.

 

You may fight it your whole life. I see scantily-clad girls prancing around Tokyo every day. I just have to flee temptation and make sure I keep my mind right.

 

I think you have the wrong motivation. You don't want to look at hot women at home so you decide to go to the gym where you run into all these 19 years old fitness chicks wearing yoga pants. But if you go to the gym with the motiviation, getting big, getting huge, becoming the arnold schwarzenegger 2.0 and you know what to do to get there fhan believe me you wouldn't even look at the girls even if they were naked and just do your training.

 

I agree with CR7. Put everything you have into your workout. Work HARD. Focus only on the task at hand. You'll begin to view the women as just annoying objects in the way of crushing your workout. Let them do their 2 pound 30 rep tricep extensions to "get rid of they're flabby arms". Not only will this decrease urges but you'll get more out of the gym. More GAINZ.

 

Plus you will feel so much better after some hard training sessions. You will see how your body changes almost immediatly. Make sure you have a proper diet and your self-confidence will shot through the roof. If you need training advise just message me. I could help you with that.

 

I think you should try to workout early, before everyone arrives at the gym.

In my experience, when I work out early (usually before sunrise), I am able to beat the crowd and use the machines at more of my discretion and control.

If the option of going earlier is feasible, attempt to do so and see if you can escape the distraction of fit women in well-fitting athletic clothing. You might just get a lesser number at an earlier time.

 

hi dylan,

i know it is hard but try to blank out the girls in the beginning.

concentrate only on your workout - be a machine.

after a while you can look at girls without getting too aroused.

 

I fully agree about the thoughts concerning focus on your own workout. I find, in focusing on yourself, women begin to notice you. Also, at my gym, the women are pretty serious about their workouts. This helps me. When they do a set of something, watch their form. I mean, just stop and watch. Honestly, I learn a lot from watching women do free weights. Because they arent trying to impress with heavy weight. Usually its something that challenges them and theyre focused on performing it safely and properly. Don't be a creeper, they can see your eyes darting back and forth. If they're hot, 9/10, they already know it. Acknowledge it. Take a good look. Pay attention to their energy. Use that energy for your next set. Also, although i notice their body, I always make good eye contact with them, smile, and say a simple hello if it is a good time. I mean, like between sets or if you happen to pass each other. (Not a creepy intentional pass, a normal occurrence) I will introduce myself sometimes and maybe ask them a question about their form. I find that by taking a good look, introducing myself, having simple conversation and building small gym relationships helps me. It takes them out of the fantasy zone and moves them into the realm of reality. Before you know it, you'll be the guy talking to some of the hot chicks in the gym. A part of nofap is getting out of the fantasy world and transitioning into real life. So instead of little shy stares, just plain look, eventually say hi, and maybe introduce yourself one day. Tell her she has great form during a lift, but in an appropriate way. IDK, this helps me. Now at the gym I can walk in and greet some of the female members by name and just go into my workout. We might converse a little, maybe not. Just for me this helped to remove the mystery. For fappers, beautiful women can be elevated in our minds to some kind of mythical creatures that astound and intimidate us. They're just people. No different than our sisters or mothers. When you just look, speak, and smile, it removes the mystery and places them on a level in our minds that allows you to look at them in a proper light. Not in a creepy porno way.

 

You're doing it wrong.

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