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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Deleted Account, Nov 18, 2017.

  1. Hi everyone,
    I never knew I had a problem till I starting having a relationship for the second time. This relationship I was taking seriously, but not sure where it will lead me to. I never knew I had a problem till I started having sex. The first couple time was great and then it went all down hill. Some days, I would have a hard time getting an erection or maintaining it. While other days, I would have premature ejaculation or not able to ejaculate at all. And now she is frustrated with me. She told me without sex there is not relationship, we might as well be friends. I still see her once in a while and she still brings it up. I feel embarrassed about it. I have heard of Nofap just recently this year. I never knew I had an issued. Now, I want to start falling in love again. Hoping one day, she will see me for what I am worth and to correct my problem for my next relationship.
     
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  2. chinatown117

    chinatown117 Fapstronaut

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    Well hey welcome! Thanks for sharing your story, your not alone in your struggles brother!
    It’s says a lot about your character that you’ve joined this group, started your journal and are working towards addressing some personal issues.

    Speaking of personal issues, it sounds like you’re seeing an impact with intimacy. Though I agree that porn addiction can affect ones sex life - so can so much more, ie: diet, exercise, self esteem, stress, sleep and of course a meaningful connection. I think ultimately so many of us here are struggling to redefine our perspective on sex - when you look at the bottom line, it’s really what porn addiction is. But - this part of your life, though it seems dark right now, does not define you nor does it have to define your relationships. Bud - my first so many times having sex was horrible cause I was nervous and inexperienced - it’s normal, and okay. Don’t be so quick to assume it’s the definitive link to your performance. Could it be? Maybe? But that to me seems like a pretty crappy reason to end a relationship. Porn and society puts soooo much emphasis on sex and physical connections but love, compassion and companionship starts with the heart - not with whether you can maintain an erection.
     
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  3. What you have said means a lot to me and its true. Love starts from the heart with compassion and companionship. I understand the many factors that involved everyday life can have an impact on what happens to our mind, body, and soul. The way we think of sex is what we watched and learned from porn and its wrong in many parts. I know its wrong and I need to correct that by removing it from my life.
     
  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  5. Sadly, its a battle between my brain and my subconscious. One part of me wants to watch porn, the other half, my willpower is telling me don't do it. I feel more addicted to porn than to masturbation, but you know one thing leads into another. I am trying to quit cold turkey, but instinctively, I feel like an addict. Unable to stop thinking about it. I think I will start spending more time at the gym, go out and see some old friends and acquaintances. Maybe start playing computer games again, maybe it can take the edging off me. I gave up gaming to start a relationship, but somehow went back to the bad stuff. I know masturbation was a stress reliever, I would do it to help me sleep. The journey is long, but I not a quitter.
     
  6. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

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