My Sad Little Life

You need to help yourself. There is plenty of materials on how to quit on this forum and yourbrainonporn.com. Read them and apply, no one will do it for you.

 

I've been there. What I did to help me was that I started to understand that I missed out on almost everything awesome in life because of this fucking addiction. It messed up my brain. I knew that my actions were based on my state of addiction and they would inevitably shape my life in a way that would make me feel miserable in the long run.

Because of the several symptoms of longterm PMO-usage, I was basically avoiding everything in my life that would bring me one step toward the person I dreamed of becoming; I avoided making phone calls because of my shyness (missed job opportunities), talking to girls (missed relationships), stayed at home and ate junk food (missed countless workout sessions). My brain "commanded" me to do/avoid these things because it gave me comfort at the moment. My rational mind knew it was bad for me in the long run but the addiction made it too weak to take control!

Your brain shapes your behavior based on habits. It will do anything to make you stay on your current path, the path that feels most comfortable and pleasurable to you, simply because the brain thinks this behavior will most likely lead to your survival.

That's why it is so damn hard to steer away from this course. E.g., if you are right-handed, it's very difficult to learn to write with your left hand, and there will be many times where you will pick up a pen with your right hand, simply because your brain is wired to do so. But with constant effort and repetition, you can retrain and rewire your neural pathways to pursue a different activity everytime you feel the need to PMO.

What helps most people here is to fill your days with activities that simply don't allow you to go back to PMO because you will have no time left or because you will find them more pleasurable. Find a new hobby, do something for your health or meet new people. All this will help reshape your brain.

It's doable but it takes effort. Don't lose hope!

 

Hi,
You need to identify triggers to start with. Tell us what triggers your PMO behaviour, then we can start.

 

At least you are able to admit you have a problem. I appreciate that at the moment it is difficult to stop, many of us have experienced very similar situations and struggled with our issues. You are in the right place for support. Take one day at a time