I find kissing difficult and awkward.

i didnt feel good about kissing at the beginning. didn't know where to move my tongue lol then i started kissing more and improving. kissing is central to lead to have desire in the other person and have s. i am a girl and without kissing it would be very hard to then have s or just have a normal relationship. kissing is a tender and intimate act in a couple. you are going to enjoy kissing. how old are u and how many people did u kiss so far?

 

Just curious, why do you find kissing to be too intimate, but not sex? Also why are you wanting a relationship if you're not desiring to also be intimate? Do you want a relationship because you hope to find someone you can grow with or do you just want one to help you pass the time so you don't feel so alone?

 

Well, that could be because most women whose profession is sexual intercourse do not see sex as an intimate act anymore, so they still see kissing as one of the precious intimate acts that they still have.

 

Kissing for me (all oral hygiene issues aside) is a very intimate and natural act between two people who are really into each other. Otherwise, yes, it will be awkward. That's just something you learn as you experience life and relationships.

I remember when I was a teenager and hadn't had a real, passionate kiss with a girl yet, I was petrified for when that time would come because I didn't know the "correct" way to do it, like there was some exact motion you HAD to do. But as I gained more experience, it didn't take long to realize that, again, if you find that girl that really, really likes you as much as you like her, just relax and follow her cues at first. And then the passion and technique will come naturally. And if you're both in sync, trust me that she'll think you're a good kisser.

Honestly, if my wife would stop wanting to kiss me anymore, I would be thoroughly convinced that she's losing attraction to me. There are things you can do to keep that spark, but thats a whole other topic. I just feel extremely lucky because my wife and I kiss like we did when we were first dating.

 

Have you tried kissing when you're on a decent streak? It seems to take away a lot of the awkwardness (or all of it)

 

Kissing is definitely NOT more intimate or intense than sex. You're putting too much thought into a low key part of fooling around.

 

Finally the crux of the matter. It's not that kissing is too intimate, it's that you're insecure about kissing given your past experience with the first person you kissed. I think you're giving the first girl's opinion too much power over your life. If you've kissed 15 girls and haven't had complaints from all of them, then I think it's safe to assume you do not have an issue with your technique. Regardless, it's best not to overthink this. In a kiss you present yourself, your style, and you share that with someone who is doing the same.

 

I am a girl. My 5th guy made jokes that I was a bad kisser. then i became a good kisser. with my last guy he stopped kissing me when i had bad breath for a period. i never talked about it to him coz i felt too ashamed and didn't try to kiss him anymore, i missed kissing him coz it made me feel closer to him. he kept having s with me for 7 months. last time i kissed was last year. now i don't have bad breath anymore

def these 2 episodes hurt me and made me lose a lot of confidence so i understand how you feel. but just move on and don't over analyze. don't think about the opinion of one girl about your style in kissing years ago. you must be the only one to give confidence in you and your actions. do not care what other may say and think about you, plus you are grown man. relax more

it is a kiss, go with the flow when you kiss a girl you feel attraction and your body will guide your hands. it is a natural thing. if you feel more comfortable to kiss in private, do it. from what i have seen rarely people kiss in public. i had exes that didn't want to kiss in public coz they said people were staring but i didn't care. do what you want to do and you'll be good

 

You have to remember, too, that kissing is a give and take. It's an act between two people. It's not just about having a good "technique" or whatever, it's responding to the person you're with and what they like. If they start to put their tongue in your mouth, let them. If they have their mouth closed the entire time, dont force it because they clearly aren't interested in your tongue. Etc. Etc. You don't need to have a perfect technique. A far better skill to improve is your ability to adapt and recognize and respond to the cues of your partner, because not every girl likes the same things. Trying to improve your kissing technique could be as useless as getting really really good at

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fingering

just to find a girl that's hates that and prefers

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oral sex

 

You're too old to call yourself "Millenial" ... You're a generation x person.

 

Maybe everyone should stop labelling generations altogether.

 

I know, all the names are pretty lame.

 

recently a man in his 50s said that i was part of the millenial generation. i didn't get it lol