Relapse after 180 days PMO free

That really sucks man that you relapsed. It is quite normal though. I have not seen any guys on here past 180 days or more. It seems that those who are living the life are not on here always checking their counters (like me) and posting thinking that somehow doing that will kick this habit. I just posted a link to an article that I read not to long ago and I go back to it every now and then. What this articles states is true. I really think that you have to get your mind off porn and really have goals and live your life to the best of your ability. HOw to do that should sound easy, but in fact I have found it to be very hard. I mean think about it, we are dealing with an addiction that may have lasted 15-20 years (at least for me). Do you think that anyone is just going to walk away from this that easy? I don't think so! This is the hardest stuff we will ever face in our life. If you've ever seen the movie Fight Club, there is a scene where the main character says something like "the battles and wars of our generation are not fought on the outside, but in our minds". And I agree.

The best thing you can probably do right now is go take a cold shower. Cold showers have helped me but they get harder to do once you get comfortable. Oh and by the way, don't get comfortable. Comfortable is the cutest little cousin of PMO. That cousin will not go away as long as you PMO. Learn to face reality ...and sad to say ..learn to enjoy it, whether good or bad.

Here is the article:

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

 

Goldmund, I can sympathise with your situation, as I too have been there. I once went a year and a half PMO free. I relapsed in a moment of weakeness, due to a sudden loneliness after being rejected. Though I felt horrible for breaking my 500+ day streak, I couldn't go back to being PMO free. I tried and tried, but I couldn't get a streak going. I eventually sank into daily PMO. I didn't care any more.

That was four years ago. Only now have I managed to build up a decent streak again after,, yes, four years of continuous relapsing.

So trust me when I say that you are now at an extremely critical stage. After a 180 days, you've probably lost a lot of the mindset that originally motivated you to quit PMO. You are now lonely, and therefore extremely vulnerable. If you thought it was hard stopping originally, it's going to be a lot harder now. BUT YOU MUST STOP! Look at your 180 days as the great success that it is! Feel proud of it, and know you can do it once more. Try to remember your reasons for stopping in the first place. Think of the man you know you want to be, and try to become that man. You say you no longer have female friends? Well, go find some! Join a club, take a course, whatever you need to do to meet some people you have something in common with.

Right now you are sitting there wallowing in self-pity for being lonely and having broke your streak. YOU MUST NOT DO THAT! Get out there! Actively try to solve the problems you are facing. Force yourself to do it. The longer you sit, the harder it is going to be to get on track and the farther you will fall.

 

In my opinion there are two choices you can take: feel lonely and beat your self up or work your way into changing this.Talk to girls
You can't just sit at home and grow a streak and get benefits you can't activate!