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To the girls out here. And girlfriends that speak.

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by CasualMe95, Aug 12, 2014.

  1. Yea, high quality for sure. Or just different worries.
     
  2. Exactly bro! you took it out of my mounth (I just couldn't formalize it) That is exactly what I was wondering/ thinking about.
    No they won't know whether you PMO or not but they do find you more attractive etc. Perfect answer!

    Whether girls notice your self esteem and find you more attractive or not. That was my main question and you gave me spot on answer.

    Thanks! ;)
     
  3. Panda.RN

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    I am a man. How does one write like a man or woman? I'm confused.
     
  4. Usually you can see by the way someone write whether its a man or a woman.
     
  5. Ekhangel

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    Yeah, I was thinking the same. I'd say it's got a lot to do with autosuggestion. Increased self-esteem -> self-confidence -> attractiveness. It's generally known, not only in intimate spheres of life, that people instinctively favor those that emanate with the most confidence. It sometimes doesn't turn out very well for the admirers though - vide: the case of Hitler and III Reich. Probably not the best example, but let this be the warning for all the girls out there praising their macho boyfriends, lol.

    Either way, with my 70 day streak and virtually no direct interactions with females ATM I can't personally confirm this mechanism, haha. But I'm still at peace with myself, which I probably wouldn't had I been fapping all the way.
     
  6. Erboinq

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    I can't give an example of any women as romantic interests who have indicated they've noticed a difference in my behaviour, but I can for women with whom I have familial/platonic relationships. Namely, my mother and sisters seem to notice. When I'm off PMO they rave about how kind, friendly and open I am. When I'm on PMO, they complain how grumbling and antisocial I am. Come to think of it, my female friends tend to notice the same things. They all must be convinced that I go through huge mood swings. Which, thanks to PMO, I suppose I do. :(
     
  7. Madrileño

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    This year has been by far my most significant in terms of NoFap and my wife - without knowing what was going on - commented that she thought it was the best year of our marriage. I am less irritable, more patient, less demanding, more forgiving etc. etc. So for me there is a definite correlation between pmo and my darker side. So that's another good reason to keep going - for our partners and our relationships as well as for ourselves.
     
  8. Yea true, it might not necessarily give you the ability to become instant attractive but the whole progress in itself builds you up from the inside which on the outside comes off as attractive because of all the little details in it.
     
  9. Absolutely, very inspirational!
     
  10. Rewired

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    Confident guys do stand out. They seem friendlier and less... hungry. It's attractive. Not necessarily in a sexual way, but definitely in a good way.

    I assume all guys fap to porn, so it'd never occur to me that the confident guys weren't at it too. That said, my ex-boyfriend was confident, he rarely watched porn and the sex was... probably the only thing keeping us together and getting us back together after repeatedly breaking up. That good.
     
  11. Ok, interesting type of connection.
    Most likely yea. But in the over all progress it doesn't help once recovery but yea, not fapping to porn most likely leads to more confidence and as you said, just more attractive somehow. And as Terry Crews says, "porn is an intimacy killer. And most porn is bad, it is..thats why we keep klicking for something better. Cause you never start off good."

    Absolutely amazing to get a females point of view, thank you very much! :D
    But do you say that generally guys that doesn't watch porn does stand out in a way that is confident or is it something you have to build up?
     
  12. ruso

    ruso Fapstronaut

    Hey CasualMe95:

    Good thread. I'll just like to be another guy to reaffirm that, not PMOing gives you self confidence, and yes it can translate into being more attractive to girls. Do girls know? I am not entirely sure. But the girl I am seeing does find me more interesting since I began this. It may be due to self-improvement being an attractive quality.

    Also since you went all the way to 90 days, (congrats!) You should know that once the desire to watch porn slowly diminishes, then the desire to fap completely diminishes/almost diminishes, and then don't be surprised when you can dominate your desire for sex as well. Meaning that, for the first time in forever ago, I had the guts to tell the girl who I am seeing, "No" when she wanted to have sex and I didn't. And it wasn't a passive aggressive no, I wasn't upset at all, I simply didn't want it, didn't feel the need for it.

    And that is a huge thing. THAT will definitely make you more attractive. Why? Because 99.99% of guys are thirsty 100% of the time, and will have sex at the drop of a hat. So what happens when you tell a girl "no" to sex? You are now way different then almost all guys. She will definitely want to spend time wondering who the heck is this guy that refused my advances? And for the most part, she will respect you more, and have a natural curiosity to who you are. Which overall makes you incredibly more attractive.
     
  13. "Just another guy", well the more guys that confirms it the more trustworthy it gets ;)
    No, I think they do (as I've heard from someone else on this forum) that girls dont know why you're attractive. They just find you very attractive and if that is because of PMO or self confidence they are not entirely sure of. Most likely the attractiveness do come from self confidence but only you knows where that self confidence comes from.

    Ah, great to hear! ;)

    I haven't made 90 days yet. I made 72 last year and from that I know that I can beat my porn addiction. Yea, dominating my desire for sex is something I'm working on accomplish. Oh, ok...is that a good thing or a bad?

    Omg that is so true! well I have girl friends that wants to have sex 30 mins after they've met the guy. And he dumps her and she calls him all kinds of stupid stuff.
    I don't know about "wanting to find out more about me" because of it but she will for sure respect me a whole lot more than all the other guys.
    Natural curiosity, most likely yea. Which is a very good thing.

    Just another guy, yea but you're motivating! ;) Thanks!
     
  14. Cesar

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    Well, I have a personal observation as well: I was dating a girl and was about 110 days into nofap. After a particulary steamy night (we did not have sex but it was hot anyway), I could not resist anymore and masturbated to get some release. The very next time we met and began to get intimate again she asked me "How long are you doing without ejaculation again?". Somehow, she knew something was different and asked, being spot on.

    I read that when you do not masturbate your body begin to "signal" it, through pheromones, that it is ready to "mate", to possible partners, and they subconsciouly notice it, not by thinking "Oh, this guy is ready to mate! Let me go and follow the biologic programming of our species...", but somehow just feel more attracted to you. There may be more to it, but I found it a reasonable explanation.

    Oh, and excuse any english mistakes. It is not my first language.
     
  15. Hotshot

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    PMO has significantly impacted my relationship. I have no relapsed since I started NoFap. I didn't know about NoFap until I came across it on Reddit, ironically I was looking for porn. Since that night I stopped and haven't looked back. My journal has a pretty detailed account of the affects NoFap has had on my relationship.

    My woman knows I stopped fapping and I never told her about the porn. She has definitely noticed a difference and I have too.
     

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