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feel so dead

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by mark andrews, Sep 1, 2017.

  1. mark andrews

    mark andrews Fapstronaut

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    guys I need your help. I feel so messed by this porn thing I can't seem to understand myself anymore. I feel a failure at everything, have no plans for life, have messed up my education real bad and am not good socially, even with girls. I had a girlfriend and she left me with no reason, all she cud tell me is she didn't want love.... have tried to get over her for like 3 years now but I end up going back to her and she still rejects me which causes me to fap. I feel so lost at life, low motivation am not doing good in any field and masturbation since 11 has also killed me.
    I feel so useless. PIED makes my drive for girls very low. I know am sounding like a cry baby but all this time I felt alone till I got to know I have friends that share the same issues... want to put my life back on track but have failed to do more days in the nofap challenge. tried 14days, then 7days, then 2 days all relapsing. can't live with myself anymore failing my Christian views everyday and failing at life. at cross roads Pliz help
     
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  2. Ghost79

    Ghost79 Fapstronaut

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    I know exactly how you feel and have a similar story as you. Only advice I can give you is that a disciplined mind will lead you to happiness eventually.
    I wish you good luck.
     
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  3. holcha07

    holcha07 Fapstronaut

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    I don't know your story all that well, but what I do know is that abstaining from PMO for as long as you can will only be of benefit to you. I'm a 27 year old male who used PMO for 15/16 years. Since being clean, more or less, from Feb this year to now, I sense a dramatic difference in myself. So again, stay the course. No PMO. Go rob a bank, exercise, read, whatever you have to do to not PMO. No PMO. No more.

    Charlie
     
  4. mark andrews

    mark andrews Fapstronaut

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    thanks guys... i''ll do my best
     
  5. Got to Overcome

    Got to Overcome Fapstronaut

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    I've been there, too. When things were at their worst, I completely cut off any access I had to porn. I got rid of my TV, computer, Internet connection, used a basic phone, etc. People thought I was weird. Heck, it is weird, but it got me away from porn and back to feeling like a halfway normal human being again, so I wouldn't trade it for anything.

    You might not need to take such extreme steps, but you do need to get away from porn. You're miserable now, and there will never be a time when you're not miserable so long as you're controlled by porn. Do whatever it takes to break free.
     
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  6. mark andrews

    mark andrews Fapstronaut

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    thank you.... I know have got to do better, get my life organised again and start living... but truth is I feel dead.... hope and pray this Will get better with time... never gon past 14 days. hope things get better
     
  7. Serious sam

    Serious sam Fapstronaut

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    You are the author of your own story man. I've been reading a book called happy by derren brown at the moment which is really good for taking ownership of your life. There are many great philosophers and modern thinkers that wrote and talk about how to do this and to find out who u want to be and to become. The fact u r on here is a positive sign as u r putting change in to motion. Seek wisdom and learn how to help yourself. I like jocko willinck he's cool maybe check out his podcast episode on the book of five rings it about the samurai way of life. Great book. Either way look for knowledge and people that talk about taking the reins on your life etc. And I'm sure you'll find a way to become the you you want to be. Self discipline is hard but there is method to it also if u have a method then you have something to apply. The more you seek and the more you try the more perspective you'll gain. Good luck!
     
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  8. Got to Overcome

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    I know you do. I've been in the exact same place more times than I care to remember.

    The only thing I can tell you is that completely cutting out porn and using the extra time to socialize and develop yourself physically, mentally and spiritually is the key. Without question, it will work.

    I know it's tough and often feels like it's not worth the effort, but it really is. I know you can do it, and I'm pulling for you to get through it and get back to living life the way you want to live it.
     
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  9. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    It's a process man. Sometimes it hurts real bad. If it didn't make a difference I wouldn't be here.
     
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