After a 128 days reboot...

Define a weak libido.. because I am starting to think a lot of people here think they need to have the feeling they want to hump every living thing all the time. I think if you feel the need for sex once in a while your libido is fine. Also in my experience, my sex drives awakens like mad when my gf instigates intimate stuff or sex.. I dont know what you situation is in that area, but maybe you just feel like a normal human being?

 

Ever heard about flatline?

 

it sounds more like a confidence issue than a libido problem. maybe look into why you feel like you would not be able to have succesfull sex, is that because you are afraid of ED? or maybe think you lack penis lenght?

 

What is successful sex in your opinion? And why is sex the only thing that you are focusing on?

 

Dude. I know that feel. You can be in flatline while pmoing all the time. You think you have libido but it is the unnatutal porn-dopamine-craving libido.

When you try to have normal sex you have pied. Which is essentially the same as flatline. Your bar for dopamine has been raised way too high. You have to let your brain rest. Lowering this bar means rebooting and this can hurt very Bad vor feel like you are asexual. It takes time.

 

Ok, that is understandable. But I suspect that as long as you you are afraid that you will not enjoy it that itself makes it you do not enjoy it very quickly. Because you are focused on wether you enjoy it and you are not really there at that moment - you are in your head and that is inherently a place of pain most of the time. Also I think that your mind does think those thoughts for a reason and you probably have to find out what that reason is. Maybe something in the sexual encounters in the past?

 

maybe dude, confidence or the lack of confidence can do a lot with a person, even letting him think he has no libido. I guess one way to figure it out is everytime you have sex remember or record if u are the one who initially wants sex or if u just respond on the person wanting sex with u. and record everytime you notice when u are 'in the mood' if this is a few times a week or just twice a week or something, i dont think its a libido problem

 

I think that it is important that you find out what the cause is – that is in most cases the only way to break the pattern. You need to find the trigger that causes this and then find out what patterns in the past might cause that trigger. Our mind is very strong once you have a pattern is extremely hard to get rid of it. The good news is that it is still a pattern and that it is not you - so if you created the pattern it is also possible to break it so to speak

I have kinda the same problem with sex and woman in general always having thoughts that it will suck and that I will not be attracted to her and having no trust in that attraction. What we found out with some psychologists – is that I unconsciously have those negative thoughts when I find a girl attractive so that I have a reason not to approach her or even get an intimate relationship. I suspect that you have some kind of thing you avoided time after time (or disrespected something in yourself) that might created this pattern. Maybe you can talk with some friends maybe they know what that might be.