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Hi guys. I fell into sexual things with a woman. I have been tempted by the stupid lie that I just need to make sure I don't PMO on my own. I know full well better though that it's not what the Lord has in mind for us. I am not married to her. I have known her for about 18 years. I have been away from women in that way for about 6 or 7 years at least. The Lord told me clear back then He didn't want that for me. So anyway I'm just wanting to bring it to the light with brothers in Christ. It's already done. I can't change it but I don't want it to be a part of my walk. I fell today with her and a few weeks ago also. I will keep moving forward. I am a man of God. I love the Lord and have been walking closely with Him for years. I just caved into the flesh and it does make me sad because she deserves better than a man fufilling his lust on her. Thanks for listening God bless you all my brothers
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CBAWSS
6-7 years an amazing feat my brotha!! Nothing but RESPECT for you. I'm on a similar progression. NoFap Padawan. Day 19. Goals: No PM forever and no O until I'm living out God's purpose for me on this planet. Praying for you man, hang in there! And if you want, pray for me as well...I need it haha
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Walk_it_out
Amen thank you bro yes I will definitely pray for you as well! Those are great goals. I pray the Lord strengthen you to overcome in every area. Thanks for the encouragement man God bless you to infinity and beyond :)
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rwilli62
You say she isn’t your wife walk it out but did you want her to be? If yes, talk things out with her about how you value having a more biblical, wholesome marriage with her before God. If no, remember that sex with her now is baggage for each of your separate marriages later. Something I wish I didn’t bring to my marriage. You may have to dial back on time with her and how you talk to her, firm up boundaries, either way. I appreciate your honesty. Feel free to reach out more if you’d like. I hope God blesses you whatever happens.
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Walk_it_out
Thank you very much rwilli62. I know you're right. I need to dial back. I knew it was the wrong choice. I don't intend to be married to her. Which makes me even more sad because it was purely lust. We have been good friends and I don't want to destroy that either. I knew what I was getting myself into, yet I went anyways. It wasn't worth it one bit. I'm more sad for her. That as a man God I behaved that way towards her. Totally not what I really want for her life :(
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Myfortress
If you're good friends and your attracted to her. Why no possibility of marriage? Not really my business I understand if you don't want to answer.
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rwilli62
Prayers dude. Jesus covers your skeletons in your closet, even the ones that wake you up in the night. But the sooner you pull back, the better.
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Walk_it_out
I do love and care about her but I know I don't have the type of love a man would need to marry a woman
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Myfortress
Any woman? Or just not yet?
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Tao Jones
@rwilli62 Just a quick response to say: Jesus does a lot more than cover up the skeletons! He removes them completely and gives us an entirely new closet! (To stick with your analogy.) This doesn't mean the smell of the dead men's bones don't stink up the place still from time to time, but the old truly has gone away for good if we are in Christ, and the new has come to stay! (2 Corinthians 5:17) This is the revolution of the Gospel and a truth that has been very important for me to grasp in my own journey of recovery.
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Walk_it_out
I mean Im not in love with her that way. Which makes it worse and it's very wrong what I did with her :( I have been abstaining from a relationship for a long time for that season in my life but I am now more open to the idea of a wife and I would love to have kids one day. But no I don't have anyone in mind and if for some reason i don't get married I'll be ok with that. So I think maybe the idea of becoming open to all this and the attention of my friend lead to my fall
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Myfortress
Thanks for clarifying.
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rwilli62
Walk it out. I want to add don’t let peer/family/even church pressure you into marriage. God blesses one man/wife marriage but also the life of celibate adults. In fact Paul says it’s easier time focus on God without the daily distractions of family life. Some men work best this way while others have to program their lives to approach God both individually as well as a unit with their spouse.
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Walk_it_out
Thanks rwilli62. I agree with you. There have been people along the way that have assumed I need to married. It's kind of a mindset our world has. I understand and it's not very bothersome to me anymore. I know many don't understand the treasure of an intimate relationship with God is like. He is the one who completes us. Not another person. We are full in Him. Marriage is an amazing blessing from God. Being single with Him I have found is my greatest treasure though :) so whether I marry or not isn't my highest priority