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One of the ideas in the NoFap starter guide that really struck a chord for me was the idea that we often use porn as a way to cope with problems (or more precisely, the bad feeling we have in response to problems)—lonliness, sadness, frustration, anger. I remember a past stake president saying much the same thing. We are more likely to do bad things when we are tired, angry, hungry, etc. I’ve noticed that it is very true with my kids, and also in my own life. There are several takeaways i’ve gotten from this. One is that those who do the worst things are often in the most pain. It makes Christ’s message of love and forgiveness more meaningful. People don’t need punishment for bad behavior. They need love, support, and after they get those, they need to be shown a better way to behave. Second, dealing with my own needs and problems in healthier ways has helped me to avoid porn (and yelling at my kids, and neglecting responsibilities, and, and, and). John was right, we need Faith, hope, and Charity (or ‘love’ if you prefer the more evangelical translation), but the greatest of these is Charity. I’d love to hear about your experiences with, or thoughts about, this notion.
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Along the same lines, President Kimball taught that "Jesus saw sin as wrong but also was able to see sin as springing from deep and unmet needs on the part of the sinner. This permitted him to condemn the sin without condemning the individual. We can show forth our love for others even when we are called upon to correct them. We need to be able to look deeply enough into the lives of others to see the basic causes for their failures and shortcomings." - Jesus: The Perfect Leader (August 1979 Ensign)
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