THE DUELS OF NOFAP: NO PMO TOURNAMENT | OPEN FOR ALL

First of all thanks for the advise brother. I will not give up no matter what. I'm not tensed about this abstinence brother. It goes as always. This is kinda feeling is too much irritating. Hope it'll go away. This might be a flatline i guess. No boners this day. And I'm depressed sometimes.But will fight on.NOT TODAY!!!!

 

It seems like a flatline brother Thanos. Have you tried Headspace app? It has an entire course on anxiety - you might check it out. I'd also suggest spending more time outdoors maybe?

 

But why against him ? Not that I dont like him but I wish a new challenger

 

Thanks for the advice sister. But i have this windows phone. Which doesn't support most of the apps.

 

Guess healing process has started. I will fight on!!!

 

Oi Thanos if you fall you know I will catch you. Just to get my revenge or I will climb that higher and higher with each defeated opponent up to you. You can win against depression. If I can do it on my lowest you can do it as well. Thats something some special thought me

 

Helping my rivals .... may be the right thing to do we all seek the same goal so dont quit

 

It is positive to me just to bring us together. The whole nofap forum is like we say in my country knife with two edge. Pros and cons I mean. Staying in this site will bring you unpleasant sensations. Here there are highly addicted people that cannot go 3 days in a row. It is desperately bad seeing people talking only about the addiction. If you talk about it, it won't disappear.

 

Hey thanks for the response brother. I don't think much about challenge now. Our ultimate goal is to beat the addiction. however your words gave me some motivation. I'm currently mentally too weak, physically too( worked out a lot). I will fight on. The thing seems to be dead. But will not test that ( it's like playing with fire inside a tnt godown). Going through hell. Will keep going.

 

Question: I sometimes question wheter or not I'm a narcissist. Part of my PM problems is being seen. When I'm "off the wagon" I spend hours upon hours looking for someone to cam with. I feel like I feed of the comments that I get.

Isn't that part of being narc? I don't *think* I'm a vampire, the people are there to be voyeurs.

I hope this isn't a trigger for anyone, I don't know how to use the trigger hiding feature. Please forgive.

 

Kind of being a narc is people to please you all the time. You to be the center of everything. To create drama from nothing. To have passive aggression. To have active one. To punish others for nothing. To have no feeling like a sociopath. ETC ETC. Get in the link mentioned by fleurette

Use those words when it really matters.

 

Come on man! I thought we were cool! I specifically asked you a while ago how often is minimum check in and you said once a week, so that's what I've been doing. Haven't even been a week yet since I last posted here...

I also got Windows Phone, I feel your pain brother! Haha!

@BeastBoyBalling Cheer up man! One fap not gonna change anything long term, as long as you do not relapse to porn and don't binge. It's normal to have a heart. Lick your wounds, howl at the moon and then get back up. That's what's it about. You're a beast, remember? And learn from this mistake! A failure not learned from is a failure wasted!

Just don't come to wrong conclusions. It's not about shutting yourself off from love by building massive walls. That's way over the top. The key is to have healthy, balanced boundaries - you clearly did not. Eventually you will find a woman who respects you and what you are willing to tolerate, then you can open up more deeply. If she doesn't respect them, it's her loss! You gotta set them first though, and respect yourself enough to do so.

 

Just seeing everywhere how woman are brainwashed to act with their man. It is awful.

I am good. Thank you.

 

You've kind of described my mother, but I already knew she was a narc.

 

More for the thread thing. I feel this is the most entertaining challenge and idea here. So I appreciate it. The moderation of it is high class. With a lot of effort. People are active and communicative. It is more to stay with one thread and be there. Then moving around. I found in you some kind of community to belong in. That is what I am lacking socially. Community belonging. Like … to be similar to small amount of people. We too different here, too, but talk freely. Which is great. Be here, everybody, if you like so.

 

Nope, I think it has to do with exhibitionist tendencies. Narcs operate differently, they have that mask of a perfect self that they need to be confirmed by the external world, if not, they project blame and aggression on others and then tell themselves that if others are bad they themselves must be good. As far as I know even therapy won't help them because their inner demons are too powerful for them to face.

Yeah I agree. First thing that you have to do is to be with yourself and to know yourself - then you will know what your boundaries are and what you are comfortable with. It takes time but it is so worth it.

 

parents are too difficult. As I am seeing mine. It seems like I am not their child. I am too different from them. Too much. The key with parents is to not blame them. Let them be.

 

Maybe they are treating you as their extension, a tool or instrument to fulfill their expectations? Narcs do that. Anyway, enough of that narc thing or labeling people in general. I feel indifferent to my parents and maybe I don't love them at all. I am just thankful for them that I have a chance to be on this planet and spend some time there. Maybe I chose them for that reason - to grow or to release my karmic experiences. I don't know. I let them be, yes I do, but I also guard my boundaries from their interference because I think I have suffered enough. Now it is time for me to bloom

 

Oh yeah - social media just fucks up everything. I have some issues with body-acceptance so I looked for "female body facts" or some videos on body acceptance on youtube and then I got so many videos about how to have a perfect body and seduce that guy and even some kissing techniques to be irresistible.. wtf? I'm perfect with this hood of mine as in my avatar pic