Help!!!!!!!! I am a Sissy addicted to everyrhing

U said it. U where actually normal straight man. So you are 100% sure now that shit is all in your brain, somewhere deep in your limbic system, the reason this addiction(porn, sex, ssissy addiction, u name it) is so hard to leave because it takes deep roots. Your story seems serious man like the man that posted this forum, its scary what it does to your brain. DONT SAY THAT YOU WILL STAY LIKE THAT FOREVER, its an EXCUSE like all other excuses u had before jerking off. Dont let these thoughts drive you, learn to control them, thats the whole secret there is to it, Im not saying its easy, but its possible, and there are proofs of success stories. keep it up, learn and ready as many useful articles, and fight the addiction dont just let it take over.

 

I can totally relate to this. Make sure you don't fall into the trap of thinking the dressing up is fine without P and M. That's what I thought amd I was wrong. This caused my first and only relapse (see my recent relapse report on this).

I still get voices justifying the dressing toxme but I say no to it, no matter how hard it is. Even when my brain is telling me I'm wrong.

In my experience, we need to give up PMO and CDing.

 

Sackstor, well done for posting, it took courage.

Can I ask, did you watch a different kind of P. before you got into feminization stuff? Did you used to feel more dominant or similarly submissive but with different P. ? What was before where you are now?

 

Brah, that's fuuuuucked uppp... nah actually my sexual desires escalated too, when watching obscene porn so, I'm not surprised it can lead to this. Idk wish i could giv e some advice, but apart from stopping porn and self-observing why you want to act like this and then finding a solution, I can't say much else.

 

Sackstor, I understand. Did you find there was an escalation? Say.. From the big boobs, to P that mirrored your more dominant feelings? Bondage, sub/dom stuff before you got to where you are now.
I'm just wondering if it was a case of being into what you're into, but then the P sort of slowly moved you in the direction of sissy P over time. Or did you just find it one day and were like "wow, ok"

 

you can't change this kind of challenge with a few messages on a board, I suggest you seriously look into investing in a professional help where someone can help you to make new decisions to heal this part of yourself.

The problem is not just porn it is deeper issues that are coming up for you and you are now living a double life.

There is help out there, and you can either be proactive about getting help or the pain will get so bad that you will be forced to change.

PS. just remembered another suggestion and its free.

Take 10 days of silent meditation retreat as thought by S.N. GOENKA will teach you a technique to remove deep mental issues from your psyche.

Freely available - through a donation by past students. search for vipassana Goenka and find a center near you

 

Hi,
I know that kind of porn. And Ive had those desires. But I've reflected on them and I have been meeting with a sexologist for a time now, I know that this is porn related fantasies. I do think it is totally the fault of porn. Something in me likes to be liked, to me told what to do, and like it or not, cock is a sexual symbol and it is "exciting" for everyone at a certain level. There is not a dichotomy in sexual attraction between straight and gay. But in my case, I know for being off from porn with a good streak, that those fantasies aren't coming all the time. Also, when I'm walking in the city, I notice cute girls, but I don't think about the sissy stuff or being with a older man daddy type. I never "noticed" guys. I know gay isnt me. But with the porn, I do get excited on all those stuff, and yes I tried to meet with guys and to act like you do. But for me I only went to meet and I froze even though it is still exciting to think about it as porn is. And when I'm on porn, I keep searching for ads endlessly just like you browse for more porn endlessly.
So I know if I get rid of porn, I will feel better about myself. But still, it is OK to have fantasies. We have a choice to entertain some and let others fade. It's a normal thing.

My advice is: meet with a psychologist/sexologist. NoFap is great, but it won't give you the help you need. You need to discuss about your story, share it with a real human being and it's better if it's a professional who can actually help you understand human sexuality, fantasies, porn addiction, etc. See it also as a guided self reflection. It will really make you feel better, just to share. I would start with that before speaking with your wife. The sexologist might encourage you to share with her, but it might not be totally wise. You'll see.
Also, in your story, it might be that there is a real bisexual component or a real attraction to cross dressing. It is not only a problem from porn addiction. A lot of people do this without porn addiction, and the feel good about it. That's also why the professional help is better in your case, to sort this out.

Anyhow, sharing and reflecting on your problem is the good way to go. We all feel bad, but we're not bad people. We are not weak or weird or without value. It is hard, but we have to look forward and let the past go. Keep up! And I dare you to call a sexologist TODAY! Do it NoW!

 

Right. That's just what it is. A fantasy. A brain greeding for ever increasing stimulation, perverting your sense of self and sexuality on it's never ending way to still it's hunger. Your primal parts of your brain don't care about you as a person, virtue or anything like that. They will break any taboo, no matter how destructive. Excatly because your higher parts of your mind see it as something forbidden and shameful is why your primal brain gets all the more excited.
Don't fret. That isn't you. You being a sissy is not an identity, not a personality. It is just a means to an end. To get high on PMO. To feel the thrill of 'forbidden' pleasure because heteronormative stimulation is too weak for your addicted mind.
You are just like any other junkie going from drug to drug, dosage ever increasing. And just like any other junkie you can combat your addiction and get clean.

Do not go to a 'sexologist'. Many of them have no formal education (master's or doctor's degree) or real knowledge on the field and may waste your money at best or give bad advice and hurt you in the progress at worst.

Get rid of your addiction first. Chances are high your fetish will dissappear once your brains chemistry is back to original.
If you still have problems with it afterwards go to a renowned psychologists specialized in that field.

 

I will kindly refute this. There was a time when anybody could call himself a therapist or a counselor and provide "professional psychology help". There are professional orders (regulation for the permits for therapy) nowadays and people most have a degree to provide those acts now, minimally master degree most of the time. So they know stuff.
Now, just like any job, you have good and bad people. You need to search for one that matches your problem. They will present themselves according to the problems they are familiar and experienced with. You will find some of them are labelling themselves for food disorders, some for depression, some for sexual disorders. All in all, you need someone to help you in your fight over addiction. It is not a guru, it is a supervisor who will listen to you and make you reflect, suggesting hypothesis to take into consideration and tips to help you. Now porn addiction is a very recent problem since the fast internet speed age complicated things.. so some psychologist/sexologist don't necessarily understand it as we are experiencing it. That doesn't remove their ability to guide us. And if you search well enough, you'll find some of them who actually know very well what we're going through. Anyway the most important thing in a therapy (proven by data) is the trust you build in the relationship with him/her. Another suggestion for you is to find other people to talk to. Maybe a group meeting or a good friend. Of course nofap will help, but I think it is more of a tool to accompany you through your recovery journey than a golden trick. The real change will come from deep reflections and new life habits.

You're free to do as you please, but don't refrain people to seek professional help.

 

Don't feel discouraged by me, if you find the counseling of a sexologist helpful, by all means, do it.

 

Have you thought about visiting psycologist?

 

I second this, I don't knoe what to say honestly lmao

 

I hope it's just a troll man