Need to stop being Insecure

Insecurity is hard to beat...I've been fighting it a long time.

 

You gotta go talk to people brother, learn what works and doesn't work, keep building your security and go from there.

 

Don't have fuckboys as friends.

 

What you're afraid of is what would happen if you let go of that excuse and allowed new people and experiences into your life. What's the alternative? Live a safe, uneventful, and comfortable life in isolation until you die?

You feel insecure because you need something from other people (acceptance / validation / approval) and you're afraid that you won't get it from them. Because you feel entitled to feel good all the time, to have everything work out in your favor, and to have everyone accept you. You're basically out of touch with how reality works. Which is that there are possibilities of both positive and negative experiences. There's no guarantees and everything is a risk. Even not taking a risk (which is what you're doing) is a risk because of all the opportunities you're missing in life.

Victim minded people like to talk about how their friends / parents / whoever did this and that... this and that happened in the past... I don't have this or that... if only things were different... but they never take actual responsibility for their life. Yes, your old friends did that to you, but it's you who keeps you from moving on everyday. It's you who chose this way to perceive and react towards that event to create the life that you have now. It's you who keeps replaying the past because you can't accept reality. You can't accept that sometimes life is unfair. You can't accept that it's you who has to do something about your life rather than blaming others. It's you who isn't living a life that he's proud of so he needs other people to validate him.

Insecurity and past events is just something people like to hide behind so that they can feel good about not taking charge of their life.

If you want this to stop, then take responsibility. I don't know how long it's been since your old friends betrayed you, but today... this present moment... it's your fault for where you are in your life.

 

Don't worry it's very normal,I also felt insecure during my first month but my time it get's better