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Field reports (dating, approaching women) during reboot, Mazur R

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Ryszard Mazur, Oct 24, 2017.

  1. Ryszard Mazur

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    #1 So this is my first, is going to be but a token for what I remember from last time ...

    Today talked to this girl when I got on the bus, earlier having small talk with a little boy (10) with epilepsia.

    Got on the bus, was empty, but I sat next to woman and mum asking if the seats were free ..., kind of smiled, that woman, cos it obviously implied I wanted to sit next to them and she smiled too, I asked "With mum?", The answer was "yeah" and smiles, ... continued smiling and turning to me, but sadly I did not come up with a follow up, so they got out two stops later and I saw her face when she was leaving: not so pretty, but pissed that nothing came out of it ... I was wearing my nice puma shoes, track pants, and a nice T-shirt and sweatshirt with that fancy nice blue sleeves ....

    #2 Day two. Went out to motor pub I kind of asked 3 gals where the entrance was and they told me and I screamed "you fucked with me, there is no entrance here" and they laughed and said "just go down and turn, it is there allright just no door and then I talked to a dude for 1 hour but it made me feel much better.

    #3 Day 3 of my plan to talk to one girl every day. This morning I woke up too early feeling restless after 8 days of being chaste. Went to a supermarket, asked one girl to find me pizza and kind of stood close to her while she looked and talked and she found it and I said wow, I did not think you would find it and thanked her profusely smiling and said she owed me coffee for that and left ... kind of went nowhere but she was not attractive. At the gym talked to a decent looking little girl cleaning and I showed her jokingly smilingly how to clean handles on the barbell, where to clean and she smiled but I did not like her, later helped her fix sth but when asked if we could be on first name terms she said no.

    #4 Went out to Keller. Many people. Nice vibe, sat at bar and tried to open girl I had known already, said "Hey, I cannot drink" and then wave over to the American guy over raising my drink" He said "Na zdrowie" and smiled, I smiled back and said to the girl "Shoosh I guess this is it talking English today, i wanted to talk in English but everybody speaks Polish now hahahahahah, she was not having it ... and left, girl next to Daniel smiled at me so I went over, was on fire, talked to Daniel and the Girls intermittently, complimented her leather jacket and irises, said the irises like that you only see on more beautiful gals ... and the fat ones (push pull) was later physical touching her jacket and that's it, too little, she vibed and bantered very well, she cracked me up and I introduced Daniel to her, nice touch, set merger, I tried to move her, let's sit down and her "why do you wanna sit down" she was not having it, I talked some more and got tired of talking and it just kina fizzled away, I felt empty in my head and my brain stopped working, asked if I could escort her out but she did not have it, well actually she did but she started talking to my friend on the way out, I knew it was over ...
     
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  2. Ryszard Mazur

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    #5 I used to write my field reports on rsd forum but I might just as well do this here, as here ... I have friends who might hold me accountable or even maybe benefit and get motivated or inspired as I now pronounce with 100 per cent faith (which is called: knowledge) that this shit with luuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuveeee ... man ... it really works 100 per cent, as I found yesterday in the field!

    just give love baby, just give and as R. Byrne writes, and it will be returned to you like a boomerang ...

    Proof is in the field.

    Field report #5

    After just 11 days, the shit I do in the club is epic, like I do not believe I actually do those things, benefits of nofap are so self evident.

    Went out to Cosmos yesterday. Started by talking to whomever I could, as much and often as I could, as rsdTyler recommends, to get out of your head, become unstifled, build social proof, start feeling safe in the club, for me, as the good nice guy the path is obvious: talk to everyone and give sth of love to everyone.

    So I started talking to this dude at the bar: "That gal there is hot, white leggins, she really knows how to dress" and he laughed and we talked how she's with the boyfriend and now he came out to dance with her and how gals get hot on the dancefloor and go home and are so hot from all the looks of guys and ready to go and some such, so then he went on to sit at the wall, next thing I see the guy started fooling and clowning in front of that group, so I guess i gave him a bit of courage. Mind you I smile profusely all the time when talking, try to smile at girls, to raise my drink to them, and all

    Next, two guys from a town near my city ... we talked, watched girls, talked about how it is getting full and it's gonna be a good party and they wanted to get to Central but it is kinda cumbersome and I said, I had heard the day before Saturday at Cosmos is gonna be better than @ Central ... and it was ....

    Next, I went out with the guy to smoke, I advised him as to how put on muscle and mass and comforted him he need not worry he is so skinny because he can still become very strong.

    We went back and he bought me a beer, we stood around some more and I started drinking way to much, talked to a guy at bar, hahahaha, he asks "is it good over here?" , what a perfect line and I answer smiling: yeah it is very good, there are lots of very nice women around ... or sth to that effect.

    Next hour is a blur. I remember talking to some Ukrainians, some guy from a fish factory and his gals and trying to open a young gal dancing, nice ass but not so nice face but she flees hahahahah, I tried to open by grabbing her hand or also by spinning her like a microdance, I did that to some more gals, I remember opening a really rally hot chic and talking to her and watching her boobies but she was not having it. I dropped statements of intent to her like, do you like me watching your boobs, as well as "if you were my friend with benefits I would totally do to you all the things one does to a girl" oh man, that was a high point, she reminded me it is ok to talk to hot ones, they are nice at times, also it was mellow, she had beautiful brown eyes and it was a treat ana ... she honestly told me I look 30, I joked she could be my daughter and all but she isn't and, nice shoes and nice purse and ... way to many compliments but she dared to do the unthinkable, before I knew it I went for hardcore rsdTyler stuff with three way makeouts and hugging two gals, one of which I ended up kissing and talking and we wanna meet, she is fat but nice and has got a nice face ...

    And this, Guys, id what love does to you ... the possibilities are limitless, there is no ceiling. ... try it out sometime, I opened hot gals at the bar, did not mind them flaking, told one she looked like Karen of Californication and that she was the main star there, and she asks if she is the main star here, hahahahahahaahahah crazy shit ....

    My friend Atman, I dedicate this to you, look what is possible with NoFap and rsdNation and Love :)

    Cheers, keep it real, go for your dreams, do courage, dare to love ....
     
  3. Ryszard Mazur

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    #6 Well so, low a and behold, I can write a mini field report after just 2 days of nofap. It is week ass cause my mojo is low but here goes.

    Went out to Keller, lots of people, sat at bar and made eye contact with the old barkeeper-mistress and owner of the pub, she kind of fancied me the previous time, she's like maybe 42 but what an ass!!! Anyhow, I kept noticing that ass so even tho I do not go for gals older than 27 I decided to play it a bit with her so, first Daniel, the American said hello, we chatted briefly and then I raised my drink to Jonathan over at the bar and went over to talk to him (social proof) but first beckoned him to come over as there were some chics at the bar but they left so i came over, talked to him, hey man, how are you doing and shit .... and later ordered a drink with the said barkeeper as she kept looking over, so later to my surprise she emerged out of the bar to my side and we started an excited (sadly only intellectually excited) conversation about old movies, i wanted to touch her but could not make myself, complimented her fingernails she made good funny conversation, really witty, I enjoyed that, I wanted to touch her hand, did not, wanted to touch her arm briefly but was afraid .... touched her fingers to get her attention, soon she was gone back to behind the counter, damn, later talked some more but basically I fizzled out and went to the bus stop, that was it, not bad for the second night after PMO, cheers!
     
  4. Ryszard Mazur

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    #6 After 5 days chastity, after a personal record in the gym in the morning I felt terrific but in the evening my mood plunged so I had to go out, but no pressure, just to socialize and I remembered the goal of llllllluuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuve.

    I went to Warka and there were two gals, not attractive enough to do them, at the bar. I went to the loo and later returned to find an old man, but I thought: "love" love conquers all and .... it worked, we talked, I listened to him, he listened to me, we laughed, he sang, this improved my mood, some Americans came with Polish girl groupies, I ejected to Keller, met a female barkeep there I knew and her boyfriend and Matusz and they were having drinks terribly, mixing and trying all possible shit, I just sat there and listened, barkeep was attracted to me as I retained full polarity, did not flirt, did not drool, did not look lustfully, just smiled and listened, just love, Baby! And lo and behold she comes close, her boyfriend being behind some pillar, must be the first signs of improved skin and glow and radiance in one's eyes I heard about when you do nofap. She came so close I could easily have touched her but I did not as her boyfriend was there, I replied but not looking at her, that was not what she wanted, she has such a pretty smile, total sunshine, she wanted some laser eyes which I did not give so when I replied not looking at her she just bolted, irritated hahahahahaahah, I guess if she's coming on to me next time, I'll reciprocate but stress the boyfriend must not find out .... Unthinkable ....
     
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    #7 I went out to Keller and Central. Talked to barkeep, a girl came over and we flirted but she left, I cracked too many jokes, the last one backfired but mainly cos it made me self conscious about my breath, still fighting feeling blue, it has only been 2 days, have to build up this energy, going to the gym, taking it easy, just a couple of exercises, lower weights, going to failure but controlled.
     
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    #8 went out to Cosmos. Had drinks, so wrong. Had 4 or 5 drinks before approaching, wrong, goddamit. Talked to a women when out for a cig. I asked her if she could sell me a cigarette, always a good move, I said she was distinguishing herself from the crowd, she said she saw me checking her out 4 times, I said 'damn' which was kind of a good joke, we talked, I tried to spin her, said she had good jewellery and a nice dark skin .... she objected, asked if that was about her leather jacket ...
    Have to discontinue drinking, I do not remember what I said. She said I was a smoker I sort of did not follow her inside ... The second one was upon me to dance, I danced, kissed but later she toppled, too much alcohol. Third one had a shitty smell. That was it, I had to bolt home, too drunk. shit. No alco next time. I promise. Note to myself: next time when out i Cosmos do not take money with me .... I have to say this tho, talking to women is easy, just talk to them smile and escalate, it is fun, next weekend marks 11 days no pmo, should be better, the one after that should be epic .... Note to myself #2: Next time she says "we do not fit in here" ... be smart, understand and try to extract to bus or taxi, you blew it ;P
     
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  7. Ryszard Mazur

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    #9 Went out to Keller, vibed with the barkeep, had a blast but she is no go, note to myself: I need to be physical, I hope to get more mojo as the nofap progresses, Born_For_War mentioned semen retention gives you power for your muscle and brain.

    "The human being is meant to bear the burden of 24 hours -- no more, no less. If you live in the future, you will get anxious; if you live in the past, you will get depressed. Twenty four hours is all that you have to live in. Give up all the other burdens to the universe, to god, to your cat, to whatever - but the burdens of the past are not yours. The burdens of the future aren't yours either. Let them go. The day is your material. It's what's in front of you, it's the only thing that you have the power to change or to shape or to use. It's your canvas. It's your material. So use it well".

    This quote is so powerful bu the way.

    So I ejected and went to Warka, talked to girls who came over to the bar to get beer I just asked lame "What are you drinking" and they started talking, I asked if they were upstairs at the club and if there were lots of people in there, I guess, as my energy builds up, it will not be what I say but more about eye contact, laser eyes, smile, charm, pauses, energy, aura and sexual charge in my person emanating, as I will have more godly energy in me which should transfer to gals, I cannot wait and this is my motivation now, I wanna be sexual from the get go and I want her to feel that right off the bat ...
     
  8. Gewinner98

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    Maaaan, this thread is just awesome! i wish there were more threads like your one on the forum. I m difinetely your follower
     
  9. Ryszard Mazur

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    thank you man, where are u based?
     
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    He is in Austria, I am in Bulgaria, and you sound like Polish.
     
  11. Ryszard Mazur

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    oh yeah that's correct :) I am currently checking out this man ... makes a lot of sense to me ...

     
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    Field report #10

    Hey man, how is day 37, you feel the mojo ;), talked to any gals?

    "Hallo" @Gewinner98 :) Greetings from Poland, how you doin, bro? day 25, wow! I would like to be thus far!

    Anyhow, "I kissed a girl I liked it" ;) This is how this went down, it is pretty long, the short of it was:

    I went out to Keller, I mean first Warka but no action there.

    So over to Keller and talked to barkeep as always, she's so likable and ladylike. Note to myself and you Guys out there ... pubs are so great if you create a short time mini social circle with love in there, lo and behold, after banter with barkeep and attempts to look laserly in her eyes and down to her lips for 5 secs and lookin back up and bantering and laughing, I look over to the pool table and this little young barkeeper "girl friend" of mine beckons me to come talk to this girl which I understood dug me, from what the barkeep told me with her face, so I say, whatever, I come over and say "you girlfriend is winning" and introduce myself and, thank God, start physical game right off the bat, if a little clumsy, well, pretty clumsy in fact. We play a game, me and my target in a team, A (the barkeep) against us, and I spin her to wish her good luck, like in a dance ... a smooth move? I do not know, I came up with it myself but it was smooth for me as I felt uncomfortable touching her for no reason. Anyhow, I noticed her coming close to me, turning her back to me, I did not wanna be grabby but showed I am comfortable with her standing close and we won the game touching a lot and touched fingers when passing the cue and interlocked fingers like lovers on the high five and some shit and we went to smoke and our legs touched and I said I like her hair and touched it and touched the small of her back to lead her. Later we played darts, more closeness and touching and she came close and our fingers touched every time, nice ana ... we laughed a lot, made fun of me sucking at darts ... and then the bar was closing and it was kinda awkward she kept saying she was not sleepy and then that she had to get up early so I grabbed her hand and, a nice move ... she sort of stood there and I touched her shoulder to come over check sth out and then I had some poster to show behind the counter and I said "Look, a nice poster" and smiled cos it was funny to me I had nothing to show hahahahahaahh but at his point grabbed her hand and started stroking her finger or two, so nobody could see while talking to the older barkeep about food and then switched to A to talk more about food, her eyes were so jealous and longing and wanting ... watery, filled with desire ...
     
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    #10 continued.

    Oh dear this field is long, but bear with me, there is a nice touch at the end.

    I could not believe how A was nudging my girl J to come with me repeatedly, I was so grateful I kissed her on the cheek out of sheer gratitude at the end, we three exited Keller and walking to a nighttime liquor store I offered J my arm, she would take it I just left it there and eventually she grabbed it. A said there was her driver coming so we went into the store and J again she did not feel sleepy so I offered for the three of us to sit on a park bench but A said she needed to go, smiling meaningfully and there was the kiss good bye on the cheek and we went, J did not reciprocate me taking her hand to walk holding hands at first, we had an argument as to me walking her home .... goddamn guys, you see how much energy and initiative it costs??? Oh my, you cannot fap when dating!!!!!!! you will just not have the will or desire to do all those moves which are vital: moving it forward ....

    Anyhow now we walk holding hands after a while and I make a small talk about my place and my view from my balcony hahahah (as if that was a highlight, some concrete blocks of flats and a cracked road, hahahahaha) and my digital piano and how I could play her songs, and shit and she about her guitar lessons and dog guarding her place and we walk up to her block of flats entrance, now she goes 'this is it' and normally that would be it except she wanted to smok and I go "I know a trick I learned in India" you wanna learn? You wanna see?

    So I go: It goes like so: and I proceed to hug her and just be hugging, relaxing and just breathing with her, synchronizing our breathing in and out cause I know ... if we do it long enough, she gets attracted, that's the trick, so we breathe, still holding our cigarettes, comical, hahahahhaahah. We breathe long and ... so sweet, she keeps giggling every now and then and ... wow, I love it so much, it is the magical moment of the night, we sync a little more and a giggle, again, so dope, she gets obviously attracted I hold her close, our heads interlocked, my arm around her neck tight and the other around her back, tight, deep. I turn a bit and kiss her cheek, her skin is soft ... we enjoy kissing and almost kiss on the lips and shit, I move away too soon and ask, which was not needed, if she felt it, I noticed how horny she got, shit I got a little wet myself (a little hard I mean) so I go in to kiss her cheek and everything and and then I ask if we are going in but she declines, was not down for it or she got scared, I asked, not needed if she does not let men in on the first night, she says no, I said I did not believe it and ... this argument was not needed you guys it only showed a shift in my state which reflected negatively and damn, it cooled her down, my mistake, I should have been cooler ... but then it was only day 3 of nofap, my powers art not restored fully.

    So a little fuckup there, I kept insisting but to no avail, I took her number and there is little hope but she is painting my eyes today, will C, and that's all folks,

    Videos that helped so much in yesterday's field trip




    cheers and salute :)
     
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    Feeling great, morning wood finally came back to me! Been to poland, it s very nice country with very beautiful people(especially, girls;))
    Nice job with this girl, keep it up!
     
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    I feel you so much, when you say if you fap, you won t do all these things with girls, will not push it forward. It s just soooo true
     
  17. Ryszard Mazur

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    oh man, thank you :) I am so stoked about this game of chess man .... I do not want porn anymore, I just want to please girls with my person, and to think of it, all it took was to have the balls to walk up and not give a damn .... :)

    I hope to be more sexual in such situations next time on day , say , 25 ... ;) cheers, man, and ... you are going out, too?
     
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    Yes, I ve just discovered "game" and found a guy, with whom I go out 2-3 times a week to approach girls. It s like super difficult at the beginning, but brings a lot of fun and experience:)
    And on day 25 I now have much more confidence and desire in dating girls, so yeah, nofap is a tool which gives you the motivation.
     
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    oh yeah, man that is really awesome, I wish I had a wingman, and I have to encourage you, even bad approaches boost our confidence and you learn as much from a bad walkup as you learn from a good one, if not more :)
     
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    Like, I, before I approached J and A bombed completely on some other girls at same bar, I went then straight to bar keep and laughed it off, but strangely, I felt better after cos I showed balls at the bar :)
     
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